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I know I'm a month or so late on this, but at least I'm noting it now. Here's a secular blogger's review of the book and what follows are excerpts from another article citing it:
McAllister goes on to relate the story of a young man named Alan, and link to a video about him:
When I’ve written on this subject in the past, I’ve received letters from men across the globe heartbroken that they weren’t a part of the decision to either keep or abort their babies. They would have loved to have had the chance to tell the mother that he’s there to support her and the child, to step up and raise the child they created together. If nothing more, these men would have appreciated the opportunity to grieve the loss of their baby if the mother was determined to abort.
But women sometimes don’t want to hear what the man has to say. Women often assume abortion is just a women’s issue. It’s not. It’s a man’s issue too. But just like in many areas of parenting, including divorce and child custody, fathers are too often dismissed as irrelevant. But they’re not. They’re integral to creating a child and to that child’s development after he or she is born.
What Real Men Do about Their KidsSome men—like Anthony Perry, who wrote a touching memoir about the loss of his child to abortion [titled "A Father's Choice: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Hope"]—don’t just go along with a woman’s decision to have an abortion as if he has no interest in what happens, as if it’s all about the woman. When Perry found out his girlfriend was pregnant, he tried to reassure her that her life wouldn’t spiral into meaninglessness if she kept the baby. Her life would change, but he’d be there by her side as they experienced the joy of bringing a new life into this world. He saw hope, not despair.
His girlfriend decided to abort the baby anyway. He comforted her, of course. He loved her. But his pain, his loss was real. When she told him the baby was gone, he said, “A part of me had also died though the tears were too heavy to fall. The weight of my sorrow fell into my chest instead, pressing against my lungs and leaving me fighting for air.”
Ultimately, he blamed himself for his girlfriend’s choice, but not in the same way Dorsey did with Rivera. He blamed himself for failing to convince his girlfriend to keep the child. “I had done all I could to persuade her that I would be a good father and a good partner in our child’s life. Our child would have had a passion for life, inspired by us both, and would have seen the world. I had done all I could to save this child, and I failed.”
This is a testimony of why abortion is not just a woman’s issue.
He was overwhelmed as he struggled to handle an unplanned pregnancy. But after years of making the wrong choices, he decided to get help so he could finally make the right one. Love and joy are his reward.
"The old evil was only hibernating. Now reawakened, instead of spouting hate words, it hides behind a supposed compassion and a call for respecting autonomy. But beneath that veneer, the infanticide message is the same today as it was in the 1920s and 1930s. We ignore the approaching darkness at our own peril."
Actually, it's over at our sister blog, AbortionPundit, where we believe we may have been the first to coin the phrase "Crony Feminism", as embodied by HRC, Gloria Steinem and Madeline Albright, in triplicate, this past week.
(But then again, maybe this guy coined the phrase first, which appears to have been written in July 2014. Credit where credit is due.)
"He really gives them hope, that God's not done with them either."
I think I was watching the taped Youtubes of a recent Presidential candidates' debate, and one of the ads I could've skipped after five seconds, was that. I couldn't not watch it. It really got to me.
Has nothing to do with abortion. But it has everything to do with feeling unworthy, of feeling beyond reach, beyond peace, beyond grace, beyond rescue. Like I have felt, and hundreds of thousands, probably millions of us, who regret our abortions.
As a side note, Catholic Charities does a lot of the same good works the Salvation Army does (in fact, CC is the reason I live my life here in the Northeast and was adopted by my family here, instead of living out in the Heartland of America). Here's a couple of videos about CC, though they don't have the heart-tugging feel of the first one, above.
If you regret an abortion, or your involvement in one, whether you're a sibling, a mother, grandfather, uncle, whoever... a few more minutes with the videos that follow can help you begin finding out that God's not done with you yet either:
The women in the above video are mostly reading from their written stories, precisely because we are not professional actors, not professional speakers, not professional media people, and in most if not all cases, these would be the very first times we told our stories, not just in public, but in front of crowds, and with microphones amplifying our shame and our remorse. The only way to be sure we didn't choke or break down in tears, was to write it down beforehand.
There are a ton of Youtubes I could post, for the many more abortion recovery ministries and services out there. But if I did, this blog post would never end, and I'd never get some sleep. Our sidebar has all the links to those services. They are all confidential, you remain anonymous. And they can all be free, if you need that kind of assistance. All you have to do is ask.
Honestly, you just can't make this stuff up:
Abortion Activists Respond To Funny Doritos Ad About Babies With Bizarre Twitter Rants:I didn't watch the Super Bowl, but I presume this is the ad, shown at this link (scroll down)
A Doritos ad depicting a hungry, unborn baby upset abortion rights activists. The ridiculous response shows the lack of art and beauty in pro-choice messages.
It is disappointing to see the New England Journal of Medicine once again use its prestige and influence in such a partisan manner. The release of this study was doubtless timed to coincide with oral arguments in Zubik v. Burwell on the Department of Health and Human Services contraception mandate. Unfortunately, this has become standard operating procedure for the New England Journal of Medicine. During the debate over the Affordable Care Act in 2010, it published a very superficial analysis of abortion trends in Massachusetts to make the case that wider health-care coverage could reduce the abortion rate. In reality, abortion numbers in Massachusetts had been falling for a long time, as they are virtually everywhere, and the enactment of Commonwealth Care in 2006 had little impact on the trend.Read the rest of the National Review piece. Read how the mainstream media spun even this to make it seem like they and the abortion industry were correct, when in fact, they're not quite, after all.
Overall good public-health data from Texas indicates that since Planned Parenthood was defunded, abortions have gone down significantly. Additionally, the overall birth rate has gone down slightly. Most importantly, there is no evidence that the unintended-pregnancy rate has gone up. Sadly, but unsurprisingly, these important statistics have gone largely unreported by the mainstream media.
"The women’s movement in the beginning was very united around issues of equal access to education and opportunities in the work force. Abortion split the women’s movement in two. The pro-life movement has not declared a “war on women.” The pro-life movement represents an authentic branch of feminism that walked out the door the very night abortion was inserted into the women’s movement by a mere 57 people under some very diabolic influences.
"...Having once been fired for being pregnant, [Betty] Friedan wrote in 2000, 'Ideologically, I was never for abortion. Motherhood is a value to me, and even today abortion is not...'
"Well, I woke up. After years of promoting the 'Cosmo Girl' lifestyle as a pathway to freedom, I realized the sexual revolution lifestyle is destroying women’s lives, wrecking families, and tearing apart our nation. On some level, I think I always was, at heart, a 'pro-life family feminist.' I just didn’t know it.
"Pro-life family feminists plainly see abortion for what it truly is: the debasement and betrayal of women."
It is also the one word Planned Parenthood and their media lapdogs hope you won't focus on:
It isn't just "a clump of cells," anymore. It isn't just a "blob of tissue," anymore. These were human beings, with human organs.
A few other facts to know:
"While this is not the case with the Texas statutes at issue, there are even some federal laws that encourage this type of behavior. For example, Title VIII of the Civil Rights Act of 1968 (the Fair Housing Act) authorizes private undercover testers and sponsoring organizations to recover damages if they discover discriminatory racial treatment in housing, even if they had no intention of moving in, or used fake identities (tampering with a government document!), or even if the conduct was illegal under state law!"
"Abortion can’t really turn back the clock. It can’t push the rewind button on life and make it so that she was never pregnant. It can make it easy for everyone around the woman to forget the pregnancy, but the woman herself may struggle. When she first sees the positive pregnancy test she may feel, in a panicky way, that she has to get rid of it as fast as possible. But life stretches on after abortion, for months and years — for many long nights — and all her life long she may ponder the irreversible choice she made. Abortion can’t push the rewind button on life and make it so she was never pregnant. It can make it easy for everyone around the woman to forget the pregnancy, but the woman herself may struggle.Ms. Frederica Mathewes-Green asks some good questions. "When does a man ever have to choose between his career and the life of his child?"
"This issue gets presented as if it’s a tug of war between the woman and the baby. We see them as mortal enemies, locked in a fight to the death. But that’s a strange idea, isn’t it? It must be the first time in history when mothers and their own children have been assumed to be at war. We’re supposed to picture the child attacking her, trying to destroy her hopes and plans, and picture the woman grateful for the abortion, since it rescued her from the clutches of her child.
"If you were in charge of a nature preserve and you noticed that the pregnant female mammals were trying to miscarry their pregnancies, eating poisonous plants or injuring themselves, what would you do? Would you think of it as a battle between the pregnant female and her unborn and find ways to help those pregnant animals miscarry? No, of course not. You would immediately think, 'Something must be really wrong in this environment.' Something is creating intolerable stress, so much so that animals would rather destroy their own offspring than bring them into the world. You would strive to identify and correct whatever factors were causing this stress in the animals.
"The same thing goes for the human animal. Abortion gets presented to us as if it’s something women want; both pro-choice and pro-life rhetoric can reinforce that idea. But women do this only if all their other options look worse. It’s supposed to be 'her choice,' yet so many women say, 'I really didn’t have a choice.'"
"I’m only 5 foot 1. Women, in general, are smaller than men. Do we really want to advance a principle that big people have more value than small people?"
"Do we really want to say that 'unwanted' people might as well be dead?"
Mathewes-Green, who used to be an avid pro-choice feminist, became famous originally because of this quote:
“No one wants an abortion as she wants an ice cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal, caught in a trap, wants to gnaw off its own leg.”She continues today in this article:
"Strange, isn’t it, that both pro-choice and pro-life people agree that is true? Abortion is a horrible and harrowing experience. That women choose it so frequently shows how much worse continuing a pregnancy can be. Essentially, we’ve agreed to surgically alter women so that they can get along in a man’s world. And then expect them to be grateful for it. Nobody wants to have an abortion. And if nobody wants to have an abortion, why are women doing it, 2,800 times a day? If women doing something 2,800 times daily that they don’t want to do, this is not liberation we’ve won. We are colluding in a strange new form of oppression."And she believes there is an eventual tide turning:
"Future generations, as they look back, are not necessarily going to go easy on ours. Our bland acceptance of abortion is not going to look like an understandable goof. In fact, the kind of hatred that people now level at Nazis and slave-owners may well fall upon our era. Future generations can accurately say, “It’s not like they didn’t know.” They can say, “After all, they had sonograms.” They may consider this bloodshed to be a form of genocide. They might judge our generation to be monsters. One day, the tide is going to turn. With that Supreme Court decision 43 years ago, one of the sides in the abortion debate won the day. But sooner or later, that day will end. No generation can rule from the grave. The time is coming when a younger generation will sit in judgment of ours. And they are not obligated to be kind."In the meantime, the real pro-life folks will just keep offering help in the form of concrete assistance avoiding abortions while still managing to live, to survive, to thrive in their own lives. Multiple links for all that assistance, at the top of both our blogs, and in the sidebars. The evening news won't tell you about all that assistance though, because they're afraid to, politically correct creatures that they are.
This pro-choice woman set up this campaign, but she isn't too young to remember that the real truth about pro-choice folks is the exact reverse of what she believes is true.
“...The assumption that abortion is still something to be whispered about.” That struck me hard. The fact that even progressive, outspoken, pro-choice feminists feel the pressure to keep our abortions under wraps – to speak about them only in corners, in murmurs, in private with our closest confidantes – means that opponents of abortion get to define it however suits them best. They can cast those of us who have had abortions as callous monstrosities, and seed fear in anyone who might need one by insisting that the procedure is always traumatic, always painful, always an impossible decision. Well, we’re not, and it’s not.First of all, congratulations. You've arrived on Twitter, and here's what that amounts to.
More importantly, I'm amazed at the lack of awareness by these women. And to say that "my country is full of heavily armed, anti-intellectual GOP wingnuts", shows considerable ignorance as well.
I know there are bad elements on the pro-life side who are vicious--I've tried to shout those very same people down and shut them up. They are not the majority of those siding with life, however. They're just the ones the pro-choice media likes to give the only ink to, so you will think that they are. And you fell for it.
I'm not heavily-armed, I graduated from a good four-year college, and I love to read, and write, and debate and study politics. I could but I won't stoop to calling you the opposite equivalent of a wingnut, so let's grow up a bit and then we'll be taken a bit more seriously, hmmm?
But understand one big truth: being for one's abortion certainly has never suffered from forced-whispering-about.
In fact, "telling [pro-abortion] stories at full volume" is so not new, and this tweeter should know that. She was 22 when this over one-decade-old event proved that there is no pressure whatsoever to keep your pro-abortion stance under wraps:
"I consider myself fairly far along on the 'healing' and 'public-appearances' scales. We stood, all 500 of us in the Silent No More Awareness groups, in total silence as planned, for over five hours, not replying or saying one word to anything that was said or done to us, and I do mean anything.Like these women and men holding their signs:
"But nothing prepared me for literally mobs of livid people screaming the most hateful vicious snide things at me personally. We were spit on, and had an egg hurled at us from the marchers. There were two groups of Satanists. And the signs. Like the guy who held a handmade sign, 'BABY KILLER' with an arrow pointed downward at himself. If not for the riot police, we would have been mobbed. There was that much viciousness. People broke through the riot police's invisible line just to come up in my face and hurl insulting words. There were not enough police to form a complete line, so they would run up to me, shout out their abuse, and run back before the policeman or woman got to stop him/her. And I said nothing to anyone, just held my sign."
We who know the regret, the remorse, we don't tell you that all women will feel regret or remorse. If you'd have listened and read us real closely, you'd already know that.
We're the ones chipping away at being condemned by both sides of the argument: by so-called moralists/Christians who condemn us for what we now know to be our sins, and by you who are pro-choice, who condemn us for coming to regret having had our abortions and for showing you the scientific truth of what a late term aborted child looks like and acts like as it dies in a metal dish.
No priest, Christian or video made me realize I'd done wrong when I aborted my only daughter. No outside factor caused me to feel shame or grief.
Having my son drove home the fact of what I'd done, and deep, deep down, I always felt, in my heart, it had been wrong. I'd bet my very life that that's all it took for most if not all of us who have come to regret.
Will you dismiss our hearts for "defining it however suits them best", too? Are only pro-choice women allowed to trust their hearts, their instincts, their feelings?
Did you ever stop to think of the possibility that if pro-choice women don't talk about it, it perhaps says more about how they might secretly feel about it than that they are forced to "keep it under wraps"?
I don't cast you as a callous monstrosity. I don't say it's always traumatic or painful. I don't "define it however suits me best." It defines itself in the picture of the dying baby in the metal dish.
The reason why you can't stop this image from wrenching the vast majority of all people's hearts is that there are far too many women who have seen this picture before, in living color, in the dead bodies of their own children, whether after saline abortions. thrown into a glass jar, or after suction abortions, in beakers or buckets on the countertop. I don't "seed fear in anyone who might need one", though the truth might do that all on its own, yet I have never seen you or your friends "dispel fear" by helping those who might need one to actually see all their real choices--I've never seen your friends funding the alternative choice offered by the over 3,000 crisis pregnancy centers that the pro-life folks, many of us post-abortive ourselves, have been doing for decades.
"Why wouldn’t I be happy that I was not forced to become a mother?"
That's what the famed President said.
Forced? Were you raped? Only in that case were you forced to be a mother. Otherwise, it was my choice, and yours, to have sex, knowing full well the potential result is a pregnancy. We're not stupid little girls who don't know that sex is how you get babies.
I have no one but myself to blame. Why do you think you have someone else to blame?
And the scientific truth is, the un-rewritten/un-politically-correct medical school textbooks and world-renowned embryologists already know, that you and I already became mothers, when we first conceived.
I've never let myself be lumped in with those you say are "terrorising" you, and I'm not about to start now. Pro-choice or pro-abortion folks here in the U.S. have got the President and virtually the entire media, on your side. We're the ones who need a little support in speaking up so we can find healing from our pain, and maybe, help someone we love to not have to risk this life of pain in the first place. Yet you want to silence us. That's rich.
Sadly, abortion will probably always be legal in the United States. Even if Roe v. Wade were overturned, nothing changes. It would have to be made illegal in each of the 50 states as well before it was banned entirely, so for those of you frothing over the Planned Parenthood defunding, chill out. They get tons of money too from private donors, always have, always will, so as long as you keep drinking their Kool-Aid, you're set.