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Monday, August 17, 2015

"Would You Care if Planned Parenthood desecrated The Violinist’s body?", Timothy Brahm Asks

WARNING: THE VIDEO IS SHOWN AND DESCRIBED IN THE TEXT, BOTH CAN BE GRAPHIC AND DISTURBING.

"What We Learned in CMP’s Fifth and Worst Video Yet" by Timothy Brahm at Clear Pro-life Thinking blog, is perhaps the best, clear-headed, rational analysis I've seen yet, and Timothy also examines "The Violinist Argument" that is often cited by pro-choice folks, in "Why Even Thomson’s Violinist Condemns Planned Parenthood’s Selling Baby Parts".

In the first discussion, Timothy states then uses the evidence to prove that "It is the most visually graphic and disturbing yet, and it is also the most damning to Planned Parenthood":

  1. Evidence of Planned Parenthood Changing Abortion Procedures to Harvest Baby Parts
  2. Financial Benefit, NOT Just Compensation for the Costs of Donating
  3. Selling “Intact” Babies
  4. and more evidence with All Three Problems Combined…
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In conclusion, I would like to pose a question to anyone that is still defending Planned Parenthood: There are at least half a dozen videos still coming. Is there hypothetically ANYTHING that could be in these videos that could persuade you that you shouldn’t support Planned Parenthood anymore? Is there anything a Planned Parenthood executive could say that would persuade you that the organization is corrupt? Is there any evidence that could convince you that they are financially profiting from selling baby parts, or doing something else illegal?

If the answer is yes, I’d be really interested to know what would do it for you.

If the answer is no, then it should disturb you that you are that closed-minded. Blind support for any organization is unconscionable.

In the second article, Brahm states that "The silence from pro-choice people in response to the recent Planned Parenthood videos is deafening. In this post I explain why they should be furious with Planned Parenthood too." Read the synopsis in that post of The Violinist argument, if you're not familiar with it, or Google it or go to the original source, if you prefer.

Then read the post in its entirety. It's nothing if not rational and exactly using The Violinist Argument:

Suppose the nurse then shows you a consent form she wants you to sign. The form gives the hospital permission to donate the violinist’s body for research, and assures you they won’t change the “unplugging procedure” at all. You protest that you aren’t the violinist’s next of kin so you can’t sign any such form. She tells you that the violinist has no family, that you are the closest thing he has to family. Legally, your consent would be enough. She reminds you how much good could come from the research. Diseases could be cured. People’s lives could be saved. “Everyone wins if we do this…well, everyone except the vegetable there. And it has no right to your body. Why not make the best of the situation? Why let its body go to waste?”
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Suppose then you discovered that they weren’t hoping to donate the violinist’s body, they were hoping to sell it, and, contrary to what they promised you, they would adjust the “unplugging procedure” to make it more likely they would get sellable parts.
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Try to be intellectually honest enough to not get hung up on a single detail. If you’re unconvinced that Planned Parenthood profits off selling baby parts, ask yourself how comfortable you would be with the violinist being treated the same way.
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[I]f you’re going to justify the research, you need to use a different argument than merely, “we don’t want them to go to waste.” We don’t harvest the organs of death row inmates without their consent, even though that’s letting them “go to waste.”
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If my dad wants to donate his body to science so they can better understand cancer, that is his call to make and no one else’s. If we’re going to do research on dead bodies, we need the consent of the deceased, and we need to do that research in a way that honors the person’s wishes and the life they lived.

“But the fetus’ mother gave consent. Can’t parents give consent for their child’s body to be used for research?”

Yes, parents of born children that die tragically have the right to give that kind of consent on behalf of their child. But you don’t get to have those kinds of parental rights without corresponding parental obligations. The parent has the right to make a decision about how to use her child’s remains only if she is a parent with the responsibility to protect her child. You cannot have one without the other, and you cannot justify abortion if you concede that the mother is a parent with the responsibility to protect her unborn child.

The only way for any decent human being to feel comfortable with how Planned Parenthood sells the bodies of the babies they kill is to deny the humanity of those babies. You have to say they are not moral subjects, that they are morally valueless flesh that you can put through a shredder without any moral recourse. You can say that you can unplug from the violinist, but you cannot then turn around and treat the violinist like he doesn’t have serious moral value or treat him as a means to an end.
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Would you care if someone [like Nazi doctor Julius Hallervorden] desecrated a murdered Jew’s body by doing research on it?

Would you care if Planned Parenthood desecrated the violinist’s body?

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Sunday, August 16, 2015

Dr. Ben Carson: "I Know Who Margaret Sanger Is"

He's basically asking black America: "Do you? Really?"

I would think he has a right to ask that. Wouldn't you?

Because, according to Planned Parenthood founder Margaret Sanger, Ben Carson is one of those who "should never have been born", one of "the most dangerous and unfit elements in the community," because he was not one of "our [Sanger's] race" (links provided below the video).

Why is it when a white, Southern racist says things like that, all hell breaks loose, but when the founder of Planned Parenthood not only said it but wrote and published it and founded the largest abortion provider in the world to carry out that belief, it's ok?

Frankly, I'm amazed at how calmly Dr. Carson can speak about all this:

Oh he's in deep hummus now, or will be, just like all these gents and ladies, for telling the truth that many of us have been telling for over twelve years, and have also been vilified for:

“The number one cause of death for black people is abortion, and I wonder if maybe some people might at some point become concerned about that and ask, why is that happening... I encourage people to go and read about [Planned Parenthood founder] Margaret Sanger and go and read about the beginnings of this organization so that you know what you’re dealing with. One of the ways that they’re able to perpetrate the deceit is because people are not informed. The more people are informed, the less likely these kinds of things happen."
And I don't believe he means, read it from Planned Parenthood's own whitewashed history of Margaret Sanger and the early years of Planned Parenthood.

Read Margaret Sanger's own words, out there for all of us to see, which we posted on at length over three years ago. Our post includes screen-shots and quotes of the racist, eugenicist words of Margaret Sanger. Feel free to find them for yourselves on the Google Books link just given. They're there.

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Saturday, August 15, 2015

Brasileña Blog Pro-Life Ofertas Brasileña e Internacional en Español Blogrolls

Brazilian Pro-Life Blog Offers Brazilian and International Spanish-Language Blogrolls

Apenas descubierto que de alguna manera este sitio, Contra o Aborto , ha descubierto nuestros blogs y mensajes enlaces a los mismos. También enumeran una larga en español brasileña nacional blogroll y un Internacional en español de uno .

Para una tonelada de en español sitios pro-vida, visitar esos vínculos. Si alguien tiene alguna información sobre ellos, háganoslo saber.

[Just discovered that somehow this site, Contra o Aborto, has discovered our blogs and posts links to them. They also list a lengthy Spanish-language Brazilian national blogroll and an International Spanish-language one.

For a ton of Spanish-language pro-life sites, visit those links. If anyone has any feedback on them, do let us know.]

One of their posts starts:

"2229" era a senha para o sistema de alarme em uma das clínicas de abortos da Planned Parenthood, a maior rede de abortos dos EUA, que está aparecendo nos notíciários devido à divulgação de vídeos secretos nos quais são mostradas gente graúda da organização negociando preço para a venda de partes de bebês abortados.
Impresionante. Estupefaciente, incluso.

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"19 Shocking Post Abortion Depression Statistics" from National Health Council (NHC) website

And that's their article title, not mine, but there's a "But" that's leaving me wary.

The site is called HealthResearchFunding.org and it's hosted by the National Health Council (NHC) since March 2011. Their membership directory is listed here.

The purpose of the site is

"to assist unfunded NIH applicants in finding other funding opportunities. Called HealthResearchFunding.org, the database will allow applicants to enter some basic information about their unfunded NIH grant applications in order to make that information available to other potential funding organizations.

"The new site was announced by the National Health Council (NHC). Members of the NHC will initially have access to the database to be able to assess funding possibilities. The members include more than 40 patient advocacy organizations - from the Alzheimer’s Association to the Spina Bifida Association - representing a diverse group of potential funders who wish to take advantage of the rigor of the NIH peer review process to identify promising proposals. Ultimately, the NHC plans to expand access to their database to include other types of funders.

"Grant applicants will visit the website, register and create a password and enter basic project information, such as an abstract and score from the NIH peer review process."

The University of Texas-San Antonio Health Science Center website explains how it works in more detail:
"The National Health Council (NHC), with input from the National Institutes of Health (NIH), has developed a web database designed to bring researchers together with patient advocacy organizations and other funding sources. It’s called HealthResearchFunding.Org.

"How it works: Researchers whose proposals have been peer reviewed by either the NIH or by an NHC member patient advocacy organization will be invited to register with HealthReseachFunding.Org and add an abstract. They will have the ability to also search for NHC member organizations that fund research. NHC member organizations will be able to search for research proposals, search for individual researchers, and search and view other funding organizations. They will also be able to upload requests for proposals, including posting ideas for collaboration with other funding sources.
According to a 23-year-old citation on Wikipedia: "The NIH now controls more than 50 percent of all funding for health research, and 85 percent of all funding for health studies in universities."

This article, dated Mar 19, 2015, was perhaps was covered by folks already back then, but we'll post on it now (remember, we've been on and off hiatus so long, there are plenty of things we've missed while working our dayjobs!):

Women may suffer from depression after giving birth to their child just as they may suffer from depression after having an abortion. Many Pro Life groups will jump on the post abortion depression statistics as proof that abortion is “wrong,” but that logic would also make giving birth wrong. Sometimes women feel that it is necessary to have an abortion. That necessity may also put these women at a higher risk of future health problems.

Facts About Post Abortion Depression

[Blogger's note: #7 and #8 are about post-birth, not post-abortion]

1. Women who have an abortion are 3x more likely that women of child-bearing age in the general population to commit suicide.
2. The increased risk percentage of women who have an abortion compared to women in the general population of having at least one mental health issue: 81%.
3. Teen girls are up to 10x more likely to attempt suicide then their counterparts who have not had an abortion.
4. Teen girls who have had an abortion are up to 4x more likely to successfully commit suicide when compared to older women who have had an abortion.
5. About 45% of women who have had an abortion report having suicidal feelings immediately following their procedure.
6. Only 1% of women of child-bearing age seek psychiatric help for mental health issues in the 9 months prior to having an abortion. After having an abortion, the percentage rises to 1.5%.
7. Within a year after first-time mothers gave birth, 7 per 1,000 women were treated for mental-health issues, in comparison to 4 per 1,000 before baby.
8. Up to 33% of mothers will experience depression at least once between the time their child is born and the child’s 12th birthday.
9. 1995 data suggests that the rate of deliberate self-harm is 70% higher after abortion than after childbirth.
10. The British Journal of Psychiatry found an 81% increased risk of mental trauma after abortion.
11. At least 27% of women who have an abortion will have a moment of suicidal ideation afterward.
12. A study of California Medicaid patients found that the risks of suicide increase by 154% for women after they have an abortion.
13. 2 in 3 women who have a late abortion [after 12 weeks] suffer from the clinical definition of PTSD.
14. 40% of women in one UK survey said that they wanted to keep their child, but the pressures of others to have an abortion forced their hand in the decision.
15. Women whose first pregnancies ended in abortion are 65% more likely to score in the ‘high-risk’ range for clinical depression than women whose first pregnancies resulted in a birth.
16. Abortion may be a risk factor for subsequent depression in women for up to 8 years after the pregnancy event.
17. Women who have had an abortion are 34% more likely to develop an anxiety disorder.
18. 110%. That’s the increased risk of alcohol abuse in women who have had an abortion.
19. The number of women who have an abortion every year in the United States: 827,000.

The article then remarkably embeds two videos about post-abortive women talking about their grief and remorse, one of these from the web-tv series "Surrender The Secret" from Knock-TV/CBN.com which we wrote about in December 2013.

What I can't figure out though, is that the article, in fact, all their articles, strangely lack links, citations to research sources, footnotes, even authors/researchers' names. And it seems that nowhere on the public website is a reference to its parent NHC, an "About" page or any way to learn about them except by the contact form to the site's editor. I had to Google to find out who they were and what the site was about.

Yet when you Google "HealthReseachFunding.Org" for the NEWS clips, or search on the site name and a topic, like "abortion," there are a number of citations of them in several varied publications.

I'm stumped as to why they list no citations, links or notes. It's unclear whether any of their "articles" are actual conclusions from research already conducted, or NIH-peer-reviewed proposals for research on these bullet-points, or requests for proposals or ideas for collaboration on same. Yet they're getting quoted enough by some small news media as an already-researched, legitimate source.

Does anyone know what we're really reading on this site, this article? While many if not all of the facts listed, we're familiar with in at least some similar variation from our own years of digging up peer-reviewed, published research on these very issues, we just don't like sites that don't cite their sources.

The article at least concludes with the great question,

What Can We Do To Help?

The #1 thing we can do as a community is to help women who are facing a difficult choice in whatever way we can. A majority of pregnancies that occur are not planned and a majority of unplanned pregnancies wind up as an abortion. Either way, however, a woman who becomes pregnant will automatically face an increased risk of depression no matter what choice she has regarding her future. Instead of pre-judging each woman’s circumstance, providing services and supports makes a lot more sense.
We agree.

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Friday, August 14, 2015

Why I Don't Think We'll Ever Do Twitter Here At AfterAbortion Blog

Yeah, this is exactly what I think of Twitter.

HT to Zac Alstin who has a very fine blog, who posts another chilling similar vid on that post. Do go watch, especially if you're starting a family or have just done so. The Twitter skewer song is also explained in detail for the overwhelmed, confused or defensive at Buzzfeed here.

I remember seeing Shaq O'Neal's twitter bombs all over my son's sophomore dorm hallways and thinking, "Really? Grown people have time for this inanity?" Has it become a "necessary evil"? And what if, inexplicably, Twitter disappeared tomorrow, say? Oh, boo hoo hoo. People wouldn't die. They wouldn't starve. They'd be depressed as all get out, for a long while perhaps, without their personal spotlight/instant gratification every-30-second fix, but they wouldn't die. Life would go on. Yawn and ho-hum. So what. Mind-numb some other way. They'd just binge-TV more, I guess. I haven't watched TV since it went digital in 2009 and the rabbit ears didn't work. Get my both-sides news online via sites like RealClearPolitics.com and its corollaries in every flavor of what's really important in life (RealClearPolicy, Markets, World, Defense, Science, Technology, Energy, History, Religion, Education, Sports and Books). Still can't afford cable, sat-dish or even Netflix. Got much better things to save my money for, and frankly I don't miss it or the Kardashians. Got much better things to save my mind for, also. Like, read. And, um, write. And exercise. Blow me up on Twitter all you want; I will never know (or care) about it! Puts a smile on my face just thinking about that.    8^)

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Twenty-Plus Years of Post-Abortive Women Finding Help, And Maybe It's Made It Easier Now

A post-abortive woman wrote this anonymous letter which was published at Liveactionnews.com in July, originally posted on Chicks On The Right (I love that title!) :
I won’t bore you with the details of the complications I suffered for a year after or my days in college where I went through a horrible breakup or when I drank heavily to cover the pain in my heart or even the deep depression, suicide attempt, and hospital stay that followed my choice 18 months later. At 19, I finally realized the grief I had never dealt with grew and I finally learned to talk to my friends and family. I made one promise to myself though… No matter what, I would never have another abortion. I would make better choices. I would never have to make that choice again.
Read the whole thing.

It's amazing that in only 18 months, she was able to acknowledge her grief, that it was only getting worse, and to talk with her friends and family. It took me 20 years to even start doing that. I'd like to think she was helped to reach this point so quickly in part because of earlier women (and men too) somehow finding that courage, in the early post-abortive recovery "movement," for lack of a better word, which started to form and really pick up steam in the early 1990's.

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Thursday, August 13, 2015

"Tired of the Dance"

That could have been my child. I already know firsthand what happens in abortion. I know you can see their tiny feet and hands and other body parts. I saw my own boy. I still can remember that day over 40 years ago when I stared at my dead son in disbelief. Like millions of other women, I bought into the lie that he was nothing but a blob of tissue. Funny how body parts magically appear when it comes to profits. I could not believe at the time that something like this could possibly be legal in our country. I still cannot believe it, and hopefully now other people will feel the same.

Were my son’s organs harvested? Who knows? Torturing myself and all the thinking in the world won’t change what happened to him. I do know he was dumped in a jar, and that was bad enough.

from the article "The 'Privacy' Planned Parenthood Counts On For Protection"

On a recent MSNBC’s Now show, Dr. Anne Davis of the Physicians for Reproductive Health described the donation of aborted babies as a “compassionate gesture," “very generous and very altruistic.”
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I am post-abortive myself, and have been working with women who have had abortion for over 20 years. It is no surprise that her words and the reality of what I know to be true just do not jibe, and frankly, many of us are really tired of the dance.

"Altruistic" is defined as showing a disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others; unselfish. Its synonyms—unselfish, selfless, compassionate, kind, public-spirited—somehow do not go with the deliberate termination of an unborn child.

Anyone who has had an abortion and is honest with themselves (and it takes a certain degree of healing for this) would admit that their abortion was anything but selfless. For most of us it was self-preserving. True, it may have been coerced, we may have been abandoned, we may have thought we were being selfless by not bringing an “unwanted” baby or one who had received an adverse diagnosis we thought would suffer into the world, but ultimately the decision was about us. Perhaps we had the abortion to save a relationship, we had been told it was not the “right time,” or because of a job, or school, or maybe financial concerns, but in the end, most times it is about serving and preserving “self.”

In no way do I mean to put all the blame on the women, or to blame anyone for that matter, but rather to understand the state of mind women are in in most cases, when they are going for an abortion.

Underneath it all, no matter what women say, they know what they are doing. They choose to believe the lies of the abortion industry because they feel they have to make this choice, which often is no choice at all. They choose to believe the lies of the abortion industry because it makes what they are about to do more tolerable and rationalizes and justifies it for them. They need this because the truth is too painful and most women who abort do not want to terminate their child.

So, here she goes, walking into the clinic: sad, conflicted, fearful, maybe angry, perhaps feeling abandoned, guilty, and filled with turmoil. She is about to participate in taking the life of her own child. Believe me, she is not skipping into Planned Parenthood, she is doing this for whatever reason she feels she has to do.

Now, Dr. Davis, of the Physicians for Reproductive Health, and many others, including Planned Parenthood itself, would like us to believe that in the midst of all this, these women, on their own accord, are thinking of how great it would be to donate her child’s body parts for research.

I think not! At least not without a lot of probing and encouragement from the clinic. I can just hear it now: here is a woman totally vulnerable, confused and no doubt in fear and pain. Do we really believe fetal donation is on her mind?
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[Recent weeks have] been difficult for those who have experienced abortion, and with more videos on the way, the pain may continue for many. To those who have donated their aborted children, I would say, "As with abortion, recognize you are not totally culpable but have bought into the deception of those who make a profit from killing our children."

To those who have suffered from adverse diagnosis, it is so understandable that you would want your child’s life to benefit others in this most difficult and heartbreaking situation so they would not have to go through your pain. Understand your state of mind at the time. God does.

To those of you who did not sign a consent form but wonder if your child was used, and really for all of us, place your child into the arms of a God who understands what happened and loves us unconditionally in our human weaknesses. Your child is at peace in the Lord, and the desire of their heart is that you be too.

Yes, things just do not jibe, your feelings are normal, and you do not have to do the dance any longer.

~ from the article, "Have You Donated Your Baby to Science?"

Both by Theresa Bonopartis, on Aleteia.org. Theresa is a dear friend of us here at AfterAbortion blog, and the director of the post-abortion healing program Lumina and co-developer of the “Entering Canaan” post abortion ministry model.

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Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Who is Speaking?

[O]ne experience she had a young woman really reached her, when her best friend asked her to come with her when she had an abortion:
"I accompanied my best friend, because she was having an abortion, and I watched what that did to her. I watched how she was dealt with at that abortion clinic, the fact that she really wasn’t presented with any options…

"One of the things that struck me as so sad is, she was never really encouraged to even evaluate that choice. It was sad, because I think she would have been a less tortured woman later, had she thought carefully about the choice that [she was making]."

Her husband’s mother was encouraged to abort him, and learning this had a profound effect on Fiorina:
"When I met my husband, I learned that his mother had been told to abort him…she was a woman of great courage and faith, who, despite the advice of her doctors, she went ahead and brought her son into the world, and while she spent a year in the hospital following his birth, he was the joy of her life and he is the rock of mine. And I’ve thought a lot about how different my life would be if she had made a different choice."
For an analysis of why anyone would even consider Carly Fiorina for President, we delve into that on our sister blog, Abortion Pundit, in "What Do Bill Clinton and Carly Fiorina Have In Common?"


If you're in your 20s or 30s, especially if you take your politics seriously and believe you're really in the know, go check it out. You will learn a lot, I think.

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Saturday, July 18, 2015

Press Never Questions Obama About Planned Parenthood Illegal Activities

The mainstream press studiously avoids asking Obama about the Planned Parenthood illegal organ-harvesting admission.

Quelle surprise.

Where's Eric Holder when you really need him? Gone? Gee, that's funny, the DOJ website still lists hims as the Attorney General 0: http://www.justice.gov/ag/meet-attorney-general-0 . How apropos.

So where's Loretta E. Lynch then? Nowhere to be found, in this illegal matter?

God, I hate politics.

But as Whittaker Chambers put it, "politics is the present tense of history," so I have to care about it.



More on how the news media covers, shape-shifts its coverage or doesn't cover at all.

David Crary is mentioned in that Federalist article. Oh, does that name ring bells. He and the entire AP have long been ridiculously biased in favor of supporting all things abortion. We at AfterAbortion.blogspot.com had several "run-in's" with him in 2005 and 2006, when we were in the process of giving evidence of the incorrectness of the urban legend that both columnist Ellen Goodman and Sen. Barbara Boxer insisted was true, which AP's Justin M. Norton had reported, that there had been 5,000-10,000 maternal deaths from pre-Roe abortions. We and our readers were successful in forcing a retraction column from Boston Globe columnist Ellen Goodman at the time as well. AP subsequently also wrote the article setting the record straight, and the Straight Dope even published our efforts and debunked the myth as well.

Don't take anything from the AP as true or unbiased, if it comes from Crary especially.

And on another note, another reason I hate politics. (this one's so good it's being added to my running "Hillary BackPedals" List (see the sidebar at our sister blog for that, under the BAN BOSSY cartoon).

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Shame And To Blog Or Not To Blog

Josh Brahm of Clear Pro-Life Thinking discusses shame--and shaming--in regards to post-abortive regret, and respectfully "debates" with a pro-choice abortion practitioner/friend on the subject. Read the whole post. I wish more so-called pro-lifers were like Josh.
"I think some pro-choice people would go farther than that though and say that me making a moral argument against abortion in public, even on a blog or on Facebook, is an act of shaming because a post-abortive person could hear or read that argument and feel shamed. I don’t think that’s an act of shaming though. There’s clearly no intent to shame people and if someone as a result feels shame, it seems like this should go in the first category of personally felt shame. If we’re going to say that nobody should be allowed to debate topics in public that could possibly cause somebody to feel shame, nobody will be talking about anything important in public. Clearly that’s not the way for our society to move forward."
We've never advertised or Google-ad'd this blog. We've never sought or taken a penny for what we do here. We've got non-existent to miserable social media skills and no major, relevant "feeds", no Facebook, no Twitter, no Tumblr, no nothing, since the blog's inception. We're inept about publicity, in all regards. Yet this blog has had over half a million visitors who found it and visited at length, all on their own, looking for help, for an answer, for relief, for recovery from the shame they finally feel over their abortion or their involvement in one.

Now twelve years running and still going, we only hope to help by being that kind of safe, protected, unjudging resource. Welcome. Check out the WHO WE ARE at right in the sidebar to learn more.

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Thursday, July 16, 2015

TIME Magazine Thinks You're All Idiots...Again

"Flawed Study Claiming Women Don't Regret Abortions Doesn't Settle Debate". Many thanks to our friend Theresa Bonopartis at Reclaiming Our Children blog, or this would've gotten lost in the outrage of the last couple days.

Seriously, since "62.5 percent of eligible women refus[ed] to participate in the study" that TIME crowed about, and then "5 percent of those agreeing to be interviewed subsequently opted out of the baseline interview and another 31 percent opted out within the three year followup period," doesn't anyone with two brain cells to rub together realize this is an immediate red flag? It automatically means the chance of getting anything truly accurate are next to nil? Come on, TIME, we know you're a hackjob and a has-been, but seriously, this stoops to new lows.

Stick to photo essays, maybe. You can still say you're good at that.

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Wednesday, July 15, 2015

I am just sick to my stomach

I'm not surprised, but I am nauseous over this. It's all over, well, at least   some news, not everyone's news, and even at least one Twitter account was deleted over this.

They know they've really messed up over this, now.

Planned Parenthood's Senior Medical Services Director, Dr. Deborah Nucatola, on videocamera, caught talking about selling unborn baby organs. I'm asking anyone here who is dealing with grief, remorse, post-traumatic stress or trauma over their own abortions or their involvement in someone else's, to please do NOT go read the transcript or watch the video, if you haven't already done so.

Not unless you are very well along on the healing/recovery process, because otherwise this could only terribly compound the feelings of trauma.

I just started to read the transcript, and I couldn't believe the words I was reading. Nucatola mentions organs by name. Living, useful organs. Sellable organs.

Then what for the love of God are they if they are not living human beings with such living, functioning, human organs!

Doesn't anyone realize what they've just admitted?

Actually, I'm beginning to believe that they themselves have--only just--realized this.

We know we may have chosen abortion once upon a time, those of us who now regret are well aware of that. (As a side note, if Bruce Jenner is allowed to change his mind and call himself Caitlin Jenner and Progressives are more than ok with that, why have they never been even just ok with post-abortive women changing their minds and regretting their abortions?)

But to now dishonor in this hideous way, those we've come to feel we've lost, those we know are gone from us, it is the same howling outrage and shrieking, despairing pain felt in the pit of our stomachs that any other human being would feel and has felt when their dead were dishonored.

The last shards of our decency are vanishing, as we as a nation let these atrocities occur. Don't take my word for it. Read your history. Read how the Nazis started their atrocities and justified them and the people looked the other way. Don't just sit there with your 30-something, hair-straightened heads in the sand, yapping blithely and incessantly that you don't want to ever know what's really going on in the world, in politics, in government, in laws that allow the single largest abortion provider that Planned Parenthood is, to be among those having fewer medical-safety regulations than a veterinarian clinic and oh, by the way, start a little, lucrative, illegal, immoral   human-organ-harvesting business under the very noses of the whole flippin' world.

Go read about this stuff before you die. Even if you do nothing about it, at least stop being ignorant.

Or else maybe someday, you'll end up plasticized like these people were, because you professed not to care about such stuff while you were alive. If what's happened is good enough for these unborn children, it's good enough for you too.

That a good portion of the mainstream media completely ignores this and sweeps it under the rug, is proof that we're losing our minds. Or maybe our souls.

Excuse me, I'm going to go puke now. And not sleep tonight.

Some other links on the subject, and again, a HUGE CAUTION about watching the video: The Full Planned Parenthood Video, by our friend Christina Dunigan.

Also still on Youtube here. "Actually, the Planned Parenthood Body Parts Business is Likely Very Illegal"

Investigations called for, and read about who's buying this from Planned Parenthood, including StemExpress, LLC.

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Saturday, July 4, 2015

Freedom on the Fourth?

"Till selfish gain no longer stain,
The banner of the free!"
Happened across this on Youtube quite by accident. Brought tears to my eyes, for several reasons. The gravestone and soldier scenes in particular.

But I wept also because we here at the blog are all wondering now, "Is it still 'the banner of the free'?" We have felt this to certain degrees awhile now, and more so today, that not all of us in this nation will be allowed by some others to have our same freedoms anymore. We now feel that some of us may be persecuted for the simple defense of what we still believe is everyone's right in this nation: freedom of religion. It's already happened, elsewhere as well as here. Forcing someone to go against their true belief in their legitimate religion—by a punishing action or by a damning coercion—is akin to forcing someone to behave straight when they're decidedly gay. Neither is right to do. And the former is codified in our founding documents as the polar opposite of what this flag, this nation, represented for our first 239 years.

And yet, isn't it what Jesus Christ Himself said could happen: "people [will] insult you, persecute you, [and] prevail against you in the public square, because of me."

"Amen." So be it.

We're also not the only ones who are unnerved by this development because of its eery similarity to the question of abortion:

"With a nod to the states and those millennia of tradition, [Supreme Court Justice] Kennedy and his liberal cohorts did exactly what the Burger court did in Roe v. Wade: silenced the voices of the opposition, bound the hands that would have cast votes in a referendum, put blindfolds on those who see dangers for people of faith.

"Because that is what they have to do."

How similar that sounds to "What you are going to do, do quickly."

But we're torn.

Torn, because of what our faith is for us, what our religious freedom means to us and to all those who value theirs as well—and what our friends and family who are, or were, gay, mean to us too.

I've lost two gay friends, one a high school classmate and dear friend, one a co-worker. These great guys lived out their gay lifestyle, but it killed them before they were 40.

Another long-ago coworker once shared with me she was lesbian. A sister of one of my best friends is lesbian; a brother of another best friend is gay. Two beloved recent/current coworkers and friends are gay. Two of my son's former college buddies are gay, and I am overjoyed to give them big bear hugs and catch up with them at alumni sporting events whenever we're all in town! It's like no time has passed at all since we first met. Emily and Joy have similar friendships and family members among the LGBT community.

One of my most favorite comedians of all time is self-described transvestite Eddie Izzard.

We love them all. Dearly. And we would never stop loving them, no matter what.

We don't "hate" LGBT folks. We don't "hate" anyone. And it is most certainly not ever our place, nor anyone's, Christian or not, to judge anyone else. We believe that's God's department.

We do hate what some false Christians have done to harshly maltreat those in the LGBT community. (Any community for that matter.) We hate that with a passion. We have hated that a long time.

We just fear now that "turnabout is fairplay" persecution could be visited on those of us (even some gays and lesbians included) who, for the right, personal reasons, believe that it is at odds with the salvation of our eternal souls, to engage in LGBT activity.

Two wrongs don't make a right, they say.

All three of us also know full well we are among the least ones to speak of faith or not abiding by it. We did a grievously awful thing, when we aborted our own children. I aborted what would have been my only daughter. It took 20 years to stop denying my shame and remorse, and now I have to live with the pain and grief of my horrific act the rest of my life. It's why we keep doing this blog as a safe place for those also feeling grief over their abortions to find the various recovery and support options, and to know they are by no means alone in their remorse.

And since I believe in a necessary purification after death in the state of being called "Purgatory", I will most definitely be first in line for spending some time there, if I am able to even be in a position to gain Heaven eventually. I will need all the prayers of the living I can get, then, I know far too well.

But now that five of the nine justices on the Supreme Court have decided, as the court did with the issue of abortion in 1973, that same-sex marriage is now legal in all 50 states—and this is a mere one justice less than those four who legally, intelligently disagreed—we fear that the United States Of America could go the way of Canada, and Spain, and even Washington DC, New Jersey, Georgia, California, Massachusetts, some to the point of requiring teaching children, even those home-schooled, lessons denouncing the religious beliefs held by some parents as "heterosexism."

We hope and pray that we who still believe we have a freedom of religion, not just our freedom of worship, will not be persecuted by some for the simple, unharming fact of believing or defending our faith.

A refresher for those who have the mistaken idea that "freedom of religion" equals just private "freedom of worship:"

  1. The first line of the First Amendment says,
    "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof."

    "The Free Exercise Clause reserves the right of American citizens to accept any religious belief and engage in religious rituals. The wording in the free-exercise clauses of state constitutions that religious [o]pinion, expression of opinion, and practice were all expressly protected” by the Free Exercise Clause.[1] The clause protects not just religious beliefs but actions made on behalf of those beliefs. More importantly, the wording of state constitutions suggest that “free exercise envisions religiously compelled exemptions from at least some generally applicable laws.”[2] The Free Exercise Clause not only protects religious belief and expression; it also seems to allow for violation of laws, as long as that violation is made for religious reasons." [emphasis this writer]

  2. Article 18 of the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights, signed by the U.S.A. in 1948, states:
    "Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance." [emphasis this writer]
Finally, we hope that all will consider what Christianity, true Christianity, is capable of, by the story of this would-be-Dylann-Roof-act-alike who credits the message of Jesus Christ with preventing him from taking that murderous racist path, and by the shining example of the Christian families of the nine Charleston Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church members slain by Dylann Roof, who forgave the murderer to his face at the hearing. They are true Christians. That's what true Christianity does for people. Love and forgiveness, not hate.

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