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Sunday, March 8, 2015

Maybe We Spoke Too Soon

We thought we'd be back to (almost) daily posting again as of 2015. We really did!

We all have day-jobs (two jobs, in fact) but other stuff has recently cropped up to get in the way of doing what we want to do here. Suffice to say, we hope to have all that unforeseen extraneous stuff resolved, though it could take 2 to 6 months. So please bear with us. We here at Afterabortion blog do have reason to believe that satan and his buddies are working overtime to derail our efforts here--and many like us--to help other women like us, but the spiritual attacks won't succeed. (They never have before!) And we're still here, over a decade after we started. Some may think that a bit silly, talking like that, but we know, from experience, it is by no means an exaggeration. So while we're praying for anyone who lands here, please pray a little for us too. It's always gratefully appreciated. Thanks.

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Saturday, February 14, 2015

Obi Wan Kenobi Could Have Been Aborted

Great true story here, about Alec Guinness and his single mom.

HT to Sheila Liaugminas at InforumBlog, who we didn't know till just now links to After Abortion blog. Thanks, Sheila, returning the favor...

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Friday, February 13, 2015

Birth Defects...and Never Forgetting...

Welcome to all new and old visitors. Your anonymity is protected here. We don't go looking for who visits or from where, but it just wrenches our hearts when people find our blog from google searches like "How abortion never lets you forget" and "what birth defects can be cause by abortion?"

We are the sad messengers of information and answers to questons like that, only in hopes of helping others avoid our own pain, or heal from it, if you're already "there." There's lots of help, for both types of folks, found in these pages and links. The sidebar is a good place to start.

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Thursday, February 12, 2015

"The only story is when a character plans to have an abortion and then changes her mind"

"The only story in it is when a character plans to have an abortion and then changes her mind," suggests Frost.

From a decidedly pro-choice 2014 article, "Breaking the taboo of abortion on TV and film".

A long discussion on how abortion is or is not portrayed, which goes to great, repeated pains to be sure to tell you, over and over, how this or that film or TV show will "dispel the myths" about abortion, as though the article's writer has the only lock on the truth of all abortions, everywhere, all the time. It's a little pat and a little strained-sounding, especially tipping the hand early by claiming (without linking to anything to substantiate) that one actress in a pro-choice film with an abortion in the plot was "subjected to online abuse from anti-choicers." I don't doubt that some who are not pro-choice can be verbally abusive, but let me/us judge that for ourselves rather than just take your or the actress' word for it, how about it?

For another taking on dispelling the myths about abortion, perhaps try here and take your pick.

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Wednesday, February 11, 2015

"This is an attack on virtuous manhood and a celebration of bad choices by women."

Just in time for Valentine's Day, indeed.


I'm no prude, though by today's seeming (lack of) "standards," maybe I really am. And I'm sure I won't be apologizing for that.

But this obsession with "Fifty Shades Of Grey" just makes me ill, and the writer in that link couldn't have said it better:

"It is evidence of a damaged society, a nation that thinks it is just swell to celebrate the story of a predatory billionaire punk who victimizes a tragically vulnerable woman for his own sick entertainment...And what complements Valentine’s Day like the twisted story of an abusive relationship?"
Don't we have enough abuse and violence against women in this world? Even in this nation? Don't we have enough of women being forced to do things they don't want to do, really, when they are honest with themselves?

Do intelligent, self-sufficient women really get off on what's in that book and will be in this movie? Do men?? I sure don't. And I sure as hell don't want anything to do with any male (can't call him a "man") who, seriously or "for fun," raises a hand, a riding crop, or any object, to me. Beat me? Humiliate me? Not on your effin' life, buddy. I'm no idiot.

This kind of book/movie teaches women the absolutely wrongest of wrong things:

Count off the lessons from a film to be consumed by proud American women this weekend:

— Soulless sadism is hot.

— If the sadist is attractive and wealthy, his violent appetites will be met with approval.

— Such self-absorbed victimizers can force themselves on young, innocent women, and it is kind of awesome.

— Women should tolerate such sexual violence, even find a way to develop a taste for it. After all, maybe you can change him.

Excuse me while I go puke up a lung.


How can any woman who likes this drivel honestly hope or expect to get anywhere, to even try to earn dollar for dollar what men earn for the same quality and quantity of work, when you're willing to accept this kind of depravity as "good?"

Or to put it another way, do you think Hillary Clinton thinks this stuff is good for herself, or for any woman?

I'd bet not.



On the related subject of forcing women into submission of other kinds, a politician in my state, Rep. Alfred C. Adinolfi, R-Cheshire, has introduced a "bill titled 'Prevent Coerced Abortions' (H.B. 6193), which has been referred to the legislature's Judiciary Committee":

AN ACT CONCERNING COERCED ABORTIONS.

Be it enacted by the Senate and House of Representatives in General Assembly convened:

That the general statutes be amended to create criminal penalties for anyone who forces or coerces a woman to have an abortion, to require mandatory reporting of suspected forced or coerced abortions and to create civil penalties against employers, educational institutions, social assistance agencies or medical personnel who threaten a woman with the loss of employment or other opportunity for refusing to terminate her pregnancy.

Statement of Purpose:

To prevent the coercion of a woman to have an abortion.

It's sad that we have to even think about enacting a law to protect women from this, but it's a fact that we do. I strongly doubt, knowing my state, that it will become law however. At least, once Planned Parenthood and N.O.W. apply their pressures onto the politicians here.


In this Feb. 6 article in the Waterbury Republican-American, Bill O'Brien writes of "a 2007 case involving a 15-year-old Bloomfield girl who was missing for about a year until found by police in the West Hartford home of a 41-year-old man who had impregnated her and had her get an abortion at Planned Parenthood....[and last month] in Florida, a man was arrested after he allegedly used his car to try to run over his seven-months-pregnant girlfriend. Before the 'accident,' he reportedly asked her on the phone, 'Are you ready for your abortion date?'"

He also writes how "Homicide is one of the top three causes of death of pregnant women. On New Year's Eve in 2001, a Connecticut woman was shot and killed by her ex-boyfriend when she was eight and one-half months pregnant. That's an abortion by other means."

We've become desensitized. No, check that, we've desensitized ourselves.

George Will, in a recent column on the subject of why the economy isn't as rosy as we want to think it is, wrote this and it applies to the subject of "Fifty Shades of Grey" and to forced abortions as well:

Two phrases that [Democrat] Daniel Patrick Moynihan put into America’s political lexicon two decades ago are increasingly pertinent. They explain the insufficient dismay about recent economic numbers.

Moynihan said that when deviant behaviors — e.g., violent crime, or births to unmarried women — reach a certain level, society soothes itself by “defining deviancy down.” It de-stigmatizes the behaviors by declaring them normal.

Isn't that just what people are doing with this book and movie? Declaring it "normal?"


Isn't that just what people are doing when they learn of forced abortions? Declaring them normal, telling themselves that it just has to be the woman's choice, despite what they read in the media to the contrary?

Moynihan's second phrase has more to do with abortion in general, but it is this: "And sometimes, Moynihan said, social problems are the result of 'iatrogenic government.' In medicine, an iatrogenic ailment is inadvertently induced by a physician or medicine; in social policy, iatrogenic problems are caused by government."

Pro-choice folks are fond of repeating, "Keep the government out of our bedrooms!" But it was the Federal Government that inserted itself in our bedrooms in Roe v. Wade and Doe v. Bolton in the first place, declining to decide when human life begins, thus punting that question down the road and not allowing it to ever be answered in the public/political realm, though it scientifically has been answered since then but routinely ignored.

So, Moynihan was right again: the social problems of abortion, and in particular forced abortions, were caused by our Federal Government, the Supreme Court, and thus are iatrogenic problems.

And I dare anyone to stand up and say they think forced abortions are not a social problem. You are living under a rock, if you do.

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Thursday, January 29, 2015

49% Say It's Immoral, Yet 51% Say Keep It Legal Anyway?

That's quite a disconnect between our consciences and our actions.

Pew Research has a few interesting facts and charts on how we view abortion these days.

"There’s a difference between what Americans think should be legal and what they think is moral. About half of Americans (49%) say that having an abortion is morally wrong, while 15% think it is morally acceptable and 23% say it is not a moral issue."

Yet "[w]hen asked directly about the legality of abortion, 51% of U.S. adults say it should be legal in all or most cases, compared to 43% who say it should be illegal all or most of the time."

"Roughly six-in-ten Americans (62%) know that Roe v. Wade was a decision about abortion, but among adults under 30 years old, only 44% know."

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Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Induced abortion and psychosexuality- a 2000 research study

J Psychosom Obstet Gynaecol. 2000 Dec;21(4):213-7.
Induced abortion and psychosexuality.
Bianchi-Demicheli F1, Kulier R, Perrin E, Campana A.

Abstract:

Little information exists on the impact of induced abortion on psychosexuality. Negative psychological effects and psychiatric complications due to termination of pregnancy seem to be rare. The objective of this study was to review the impact of induced abortion on sexuality and couple relationships. A systematic search of the literature was performed. Studies had to report a quantitative or qualitative evaluation of sexuality after pregnancy termination. Four studies were included. In the one prospective study using a control group, no difference in sexual functioning between groups after 1 year was reported. In the remaining observational studies, sexual dysfunction was reported in up to 30% of women after termination. Women undergoing abortion had significantly more conflicts in their partnerships. This was similar in all studies. Separation occurred in about one-quarter of all couples. Some studies report sexual dysfunction after termination of pregnancy. In about half of the couples separated after termination, abortion seemed not to have led to the separation. Psychological factors, together with relationship problems, might have played a role in failed contraception. The impact of induced abortion on sexuality needs to be studied in greater detail with rigorous methodology to draw firm conclusions.

PMID: 11191168 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

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Tuesday, January 27, 2015

So Sad: Police Officer Hits Girlfriend After "Pushing Her To Have Abortion"

This is the true "war on women:"

North Charleston police officer accused of hitting girlfriend after abortion:

Shivers' girlfriend told deputies she was 10 weeks pregnant with Shivers' child and that he was pushing her to have an abortion. She said Shivers drove her from the hotel to the Charleston Women's Medical Center in West Ashley Saturday morning to get an abortion, then hit her in the face several times afterward because the procedure took so long, according to the report...A deputy noted that her left cheek appeared swollen.
Just one more on our running list of Forced Abortions.

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"The ‘black lives matter’ slogan excludes the unborn"

From this article, "Aborting black America: The ‘black lives matter’ slogan excludes the unborn":
Ironically, black women used to suffer from breast cancer less frequently than white women. Not any longer. The Black Women’s Health Imperative notes that according to an American Cancer Society report, black women now develop breast cancer almost as frequently as whites, and are more likely to die from the disease. LifeSiteNews also cites an American Cancer Society report that black women under age 40 now are more likely to develop breast cancer than their white counterparts. They can thank Margaret Sanger [Planned Parenthood's founder] — and some of today’s so-called civil rights leaders.

Sanger relied on black ministers to act as Judas goats leading their sisters to abortion mills. According to LifeSiteNews, Sanger wrote in 1939, “We do not want the word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population, and the minister is the man who can straighten that idea out if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members.”

Some black leaders are still acting as Judas goats today. LifeSiteNews cites black pro-life activist Ryan Bomberger: “Back in 2005, the NAACP praised the high black abortion rate as compared to the percentage of the population at a NARAL fundraising gala. When more black babies are aborted than are born alive in NYC and the NAACP responds by supporting Gov. [Andrew] Cuomo’s radical abortion expansion via the misnamed ‘Women’s Equality Act,’ one can understand how the targeting of minorities continues unabated.”

• J. Kenneth Blackwell is a policy board member of the American Civil Rights Union.

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Monday, January 26, 2015

Abortion and the man. A research study

Riv Patol Nerv Ment. 1983 Nov-Dec;104(6):255-68.
[Abortion and the man. Psychological and psychopathological manifestations in the face of lost fatherhood].

Benvenuti P, Borri P, Buzzoni P, Clerici L, Rossi Monti M.

Abstract:

This study examines the psychological and psychopathological reactions that may appear in a man when his partner aborts. The small amount of literature that exists on the subjects was examined, and several men were, interviewed at the time their partners aborted voluntarely [sic]. It turns out that in spite of the man's lack of recognition of any reactions (reinforced by current attitudes and by the scant psychological and medical interest in the subject), there is considerable emotional involvement in the lost parenthood, both for the man and the woman. As revealed by the interviews, this involvement may manifest itself in persecutory or depressive anxiety and psychosomatic symptoms. Moreover, but very rarely, real and typical psychopathological symptoms may appear, such as depression and behavioural disorders. The appearance of these reactions is linked to the problems and conflicts aroused by prospective fatherhood, leading to a comparison between the experiences of fuliwed fatherhood and those of fatherhood lost.

PMID: 6543986 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

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Sunday, January 25, 2015

Public Health Impact of Legal Abortion in the US: 40 Years Later (2012 Study)

Scientifica (Cairo). 2012;2012:980812. doi: 10.6064/2012/980812. Epub 2012 Dec 13.
Public Health Impact of Legal Termination of Pregnancy in the US: 40 Years Later.
Thorp JM Jr.

Abstract:

During the 40 years since the US Supreme Court decision in Doe versus Wade and Doe versus Bolton, restrictions on termination of pregnancy (TOP) [abortion] were overturned nationwide. The use of TOP was much wider than predicted and a substantial fraction of reproductive age women in the U.S. have had one or more TOPs and that widespread uptake makes the downstream impact of any possible harms have broad public health implications. While short-term harms do not appear to be excessive, from a public perspective longer term harm is conceiving, and clearly more study of particular relevance concerns the associations of TOP with subsequent preterm birth and mental health problems. Clearly more research is needed to quantify the magnitude of risk and accurately inform women with the crisis of unintended pregnancy considering TOP. The current US data-gathering mechanisms are inadequate for this important task.

PMID: 24278765 [PubMed] PMCID: PMC3820464


Conclusion:

The natural experiment in abolishing most restrictions on TOP initiated by the US Supreme Court in 1973 has proven the fallacies inherent in expert predictions. First, uptake of this procedure by women was far greater than predicted and in 2012 one out of three women in the US will have a TOP by the age of 45 [310, 311]. Second, a myopic focus on short-term complications has documented, albeit incompletely, the relative safety of the procedure at early gestational ages, but failed to adequately explore the long term health consequences. This is of particular importance with such widespread uptake of TOP where even modest increases in hazard ratios can have a huge impact on a population's health. The example of PTB stated herein is illustrative of this impact. The health impact of TOP is further befuddled by a paucity of reliable epidemiologic data on TOP and an inability to reliably know how often TOP is performed in the US and link administrative databases. Putting aside for a moment ethical considerations on the moral status of the embryo or fetus versus the status of his or her mother (which science is inadequate to address), there is a vacuum in TOP epidemiology and a real need to improve and upgrade our sources of observational data. Respect for maternal autonomy and the difficult decisions a woman faces in an unintended or crisis pregnancy must be considered [sic] cry out for nothing less.

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