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Saturday, October 11, 2014

Women Do Die From Legal Abortions, Still

2014 Update on a woman who died in a 2011 botched abortion in Australia.

March 2014, a woman dies after her abortion in a Cleveland abortion clinic; is taken by ambulance out of the clinic, not breathing. Here's the story on who she was.

A N.Y. woman dies from her abortion in Carhart's Maryland abortion clinic in 2013. Here's who she was. (I know with this case, it was reported later that the coroner's report said she died of a "naturally-occurring" phenomenon that could have occurred during childbirth. I have never heard of that phenomenon happening in childbirth, though I suppose it's possible. Then again, famous Connecticut forensic coroner to the stars, Dr. Henry Lee, isn't a real MD-coroner-doctor, either. Most states require the M.D. degree. He's just a PhD in BioChem. JustSaying.) And it would give me small comfort if it were possible, were I her family member.

In 2012, this young woman also died of her abortion. This news article is written by a reporter named Mary Mitchell, who stated that "I still remember the pain of losing two friends during my teenage years. Both teens suffered complications after legal abortions."

It may not be one case a year nowadays, but even if it is, is that even close to acceptable?

For more such truthful if horrific news, click over to the long-running Cemetery of Choice, researched and posted by our longtime friend cdunigan on her Real Choice website, who has stated eloquently for even longer than this blog has been around:
"Each woman died at the hands of somebody who bought into the idea that women and their unborn children are mortal enemies, and that abortion is a solution to women's problems.
"Women deserve better."




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Friday, October 10, 2014

"The Suicide Advisory"

I wonder whatever happened to this?
"The hearing focused on what the courts have called “the suicide advisory”: the statute’s requirement that abortion providers give patients “a description of all known medical risks of the procedure and statistically significant risk factors … including … depression [and] increased risk of suicide ideation and suicide.”
This case is the latest example of how the lower federal courts repeatedly have tied up reasonable abortion regulations for years, preventing the regulations from taking effect, even when there is direct language from prior Supreme Court decisions supporting the purpose of the law."
It turns out that the Supreme Court has, several times in recent years, been stating that women should be advised if something, in this case, having an abortion, might be harmful to their psyches, personally:
"In 1992, the Supreme Court reaffirmed that the states have 'a substantial governmental interest justifying a requirement that a woman be apprised of the health risks of abortion and childbirth. … It cannot be questioned that psychological well-being is a facet of health. … In attempting to ensure that a woman apprehend the full consequences of her decision, the State furthers the legitimate purpose of reducing the risk that a woman may elect an abortion, only to discover later, with devastating psychological consequences, that her decision was not fully informed. If the information the State requires to be made available to the woman is truthful and not misleading, the requirement may be permissible.'
"In 2007, the Supreme Court made it more explicit in its latest abortion case: 'Whether to have an abortion requires a difficult and painful moral decision. While we find no reliable data to measure the phenomenon, it seems unexceptionable to conclude some women come to regret their choice to abort. … Severe depression and loss of esteem can follow. … The State has an interest in ensuring so grave a choice is well informed.'
"The court also reiterated that 'state and federal legislatures [have been given] wide discretion to pass legislation in areas where there is medical and scientific uncertainty.'"
This isn't about laws or legal arguments on abortion, though if anyone wants to beat me to the upshot of these 2012 legal proceedings, I'm all ears (or I'll just DYOR and maybe blog tomorrow as it relates to advising on "truthful" warnings women should benefit from).
This is about the simple news that the highest court in this land believes that women should be told of the possible psychological negatives about having our abortions, not just the possible positives.
We want to know all that detail when it comes to whether our prescription medications, our organic produce, our non-hormone-injected steaks or free-range chickens, are all safe to consume, or that our surgery and anesthesia and hospital care are going to be spot-on.
Why do so many women, and men for that matter, not want to know these details then, when it comes to the medical procedure that is abortion?

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Thursday, October 9, 2014

Italian woman died after taking abortion drug

This occurred this past April, after she took the RU-486 abortion medication under a hospital's care.

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Wednesday, October 8, 2014

"Mama, did you ever want to abort me?”

"Nine years after my first abortion, just three years after the second, I began to have nightmares. I realized my abortions had nearly destroyed my life. I learned that my problems with guilt, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, nightmares, and alcohol are actually not uncommon with women who have had abortions.
"...Fortunately, now there are post-abortion support groups that provide a woman with a safe place where she can discover that she is not alone and can deal with her grief, accept forgiveness, and finally forgive herself and others.
"As I began to heal, I realized that not only had the abortions affected me and my life, they had a profound effect on those closest to me – my children and my parents.
"Each of my children handled learning about my abortions differently.
"When my daughter was nine she overheard me talking about my abortions. After the tears came the questions..."


The article is by Karen Cross, who got involved in the "activism" side of the ideological divide about abortion's rightness or wrongness. But that's not why I thought it worth noting. She writes of how her abortions affected her mother, her relationship with her, her children, her whole family.
She also urges folks as we have long urged folks:
"...I would offer a word of caution to my pro-life friends. In your zeal to protect life, please be careful with the words you choose to use.
"There have been more than 55 million abortions in the U.S. since 1973. This means that everywhere you go, there are people who have participated in abortion. They may have had one (or more), paid for one, or maybe they have taken their sister, daughter, or girlfriend for an abortion. In every convention I meet people who are in pain because of abortion. During last week’s 43rd annual convention, I met parents, grandparents, siblings, and friends of babies who were regretfully aborted.
"Very often we hear statistical research about abortion. However we must remember that behind each statistic is a real person – with a family forever changed...We may never know the extent to which abortion has affected our culture. There are millions of women and families who need healing. We must be willing to reach out to them with unconditional love."

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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

"I Have To Abort My Baby" Poems Google Search

Someone found our blog by typing that phrase into Google. This is more of what that person found. This really got me.
  1. "Poem From A Father Regretting Abortion, To My Little Baby My ex girlfriend decided to have an abortion, I did not want this to happen and so I wrote a poem to express my feelings, to say sorry and to tell my baby that I care.  
  2. Abortion Poems-“Mummy is Sorry” - The Siege of Jericho Can an angel enfold my child, in the love that I have...
  3. Poems about Abortion...Mothers who have chosen to abort often face feelings of sorrow, shame, and guilt. ... Many women feel anger for having aborted a child they were told did not yet exist as a .... This poem touches my heart for when I was younger I was forced to abort by ...
  4. My Unborn Love, Abortion Poem As I laid holding my belly, looking at the moon. I realized my baby, that I have fallen in love with you. My son, my daughter, my unborn love. You are a gift sent to ...
  5. Remorse Is Forever, Abortion Poem ‎ So I got the abortion, part of me wanted it, part of me didn't. I hate myself, I could have kept my baby. I was desperate and didn't think of anyone but myself.
  6. I Want My Baby Back... : I Had An Abortion Story and Experience  Friends and family who have revealed their experience with abortion to me made it .... I have an ultrasound picture of my baby and I miss her/he so much. ..... baby but also i found this poem which might help. even though your baby is not here...
I'm working with a new (actually very old, less bells and whistles but works) browser, and the new cut/paste doesn't do what my old browser used to do. So when I cut/paste this, it gave me user ratings and the number of votes for said ratings, like these:

Rating: 4.4 - 433 votes
Rating: 4.4 - 319 votes

That may not seem like a lot, but when these are poems scattered around the Internet, and over 300 or 400 people find them, all on their own from Google searches like these, not from Facebook or Twitter, and put in their two cents that the poems touched them that much, it is a lot.

If some of those poems in those links are too much for anyone right now, skip them.

Just know that there is so much help, unjudgmental, stay-anonymous help, if you're feeling this kind of regret and remorse.

So many hundreds of thousands of us who regret our abortions have sought and found that help. All the sources are linked to in our sidebar at right. Just pick up the phone to any of them toll-free, or find an email buddy or chat-online forum.

It'll all be there, still waiting for you tomorrow and the next day and the next day if you don't call or email any of them now, but you have to make that first contact.

After all, this blog's been around over a decade and we're not going anywhere either. We'll always be up, as a resource for anyone hurting from their abortion, and we don't pass judgment if you don't regret either.

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Monday, October 6, 2014

Some Post-Abortive Women Write Of Their Body-Images

Found this blog, The Shape Of A Mother, which at first made me wonder if it sent the wrong message. But the more I read, I thought its heart is in the right place, and the purpose is worthwhile, to help women avoid or overcome negative stereotypical body consciousness, and to help "the next generation grow up knowing how normal our bodies are." No Bratz dolls, no being down on ourselves, no being uber-focused on being "perfect" (whatever that really is). Some of the contributors seemed to be a little too worried about "losing" their "better" bodies, post-baby or even post-abortion, but overall there are some good reads.

Like "The Life of My Belly", and "How Do You Forgive Yourself?" and others in the Abortion/Life After Abortion category.

And please note: that blog is a tasteful site, run by an average, ordinary-looking mom of two. Please have the respect due her noble intention.

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Sunday, October 5, 2014

Men And Abortion- Some Research

"Men & Abortion: Psychological Effects", a review of scientific and clinical literature as of 2008, by Catherine T. Coyle, RN, PhD., which provides at the end the entire list of 31 research studies reviewed, with synopses of the findings, the sample sizes, methodologies, etc.

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Saturday, October 4, 2014

ExperienceProject.com's Abortion Stories

Some women answer the question, "Do you regret you abortion?"

"I wish it wasn't that easy to have an abortion :( "

"Of course I do I regret it every single day"

"I never knew what pain really was until that day."

"It's so hard the word regret can't even describe how bad I feel..."

There are some on that combox who don't regret, but not too many. It isn't a scientific survey, of course. The pro-choice folks often put down the post-abortive regret stories as merely "anecdotal." Like, they don't add up to real or substantial numbers. I imagine that wouldn't happen as much if there was a preponderance of I Don't Regret stories, instead.

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Friday, October 3, 2014

Talk About A Kind Of Wolf In Sheep's Clothing

I've just discovered a website that at first looked like it would really help women who regret their abortions. Phrases like "abortion awareness campaign" (mimicking Silent No More Awareness Campaign's title), and verbiage about really listening to real-life abortion stories with respect, with compassion, about supporting everyone whose been affected by an abortion...

Then, in the very next paragraph, come accusations that the "pro-life side" is responsible for stigmatizing women and surrounding them with "shame" and "secrecy," forcing "pro-choice supporters" to defend abortion and fight off the "barrage" of "lies" about the negative effects we can experience after abortion.

Then you check out their "ABOUT US" page, and they're an abortion clinic.

I guess they're not really into "supporting everyone" affected by an abortion, after all. And no, we won't link to sites like this. We have long linked to a select few pro-choice post-abortion sites, in our sidebar below. Guess we'll just be a bit more vigilant in the future about who is profitting behind such sites.

Sometimes folks object to the post-abortion recovery details on crisis pregnancy centers' websites, but the comparison isn't really an honest one. Crisis pregnancy centers aren't for-profit businesses. Many if not most abortion clinics are, and those which are non-profit still need a person's money to perform an abortion for them. Crisis pregnancy centers, if you're really unable to pay the small amount to benefit from one of their abortion recovery/healing services, or if you're pregnant, to obtain an ultrasound, or pre-natal care, and post-natal care, a place to live, food, clothing for you and your newborn when s/he arrives, for example, there are donors already donating so you can get all that help, at no charge.

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Thursday, October 2, 2014

"I Never Knew I Would Pass That Heartbreak On To My Children"

Five Women Reveal Heartbreaking Impact of Abortion On Their Lives, including a former Planned Parenthood abortion clinic director. From the May 2014 article in TheBlaze.com:
"Abby Johnson, a former Planned Parenthood clinic director who is now a pro-life activist, rallied four other women to join her in sharing their stories of intense emotional pain, suicidal inclinations and ongoing guilt after their abortions.

"Johnson told TheBlaze that the group is hoping to offer a response to the so-called 'pro-voice' movement, which she said is 'trying to paint abortion in a positive light.' "'What that movement has failed to do is walk with women past their initial abortion,' Johnson said. 'Five years, 10 years, 20 years … will they still feel empowered by their decision? We don’t know. But the five women in this post have experienced the long term pain of abortion.'"

It took me about twenty years for it to break through my wall of toughness and denial. It's taken some grandmothers longer than that.

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