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Thursday, February 11, 2016

"Crony Feminism"- You Heard It Here First, We Think?

Actually, it's over at our sister blog, AbortionPundit, where we believe we may have been the first to coin the phrase "Crony Feminism", as embodied by HRC, Gloria Steinem and Madeline Albright, in triplicate, this past week.

(But then again, maybe this guy coined the phrase first, which appears to have been written in July 2014. Credit where credit is due.)

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Wednesday, February 10, 2016

"There's never a moment in your life when you're beyond the reach of God's grace"

"He really gives them hope, that God's not done with them either."

I think I was watching the taped Youtubes of a recent Presidential candidates' debate, and one of the ads I could've skipped after five seconds, was that. I couldn't not watch it. It really got to me.

Has nothing to do with abortion. But it has everything to do with feeling unworthy, of feeling beyond reach, beyond peace, beyond grace, beyond rescue. Like I have felt, and hundreds of thousands, probably millions of us, who regret our abortions.

As a side note, Catholic Charities does a lot of the same good works the Salvation Army does (in fact, CC is the reason I live my life here in the Northeast and was adopted by my family here, instead of living out in the Heartland of America). Here's a couple of videos about CC, though they don't have the heart-tugging feel of the first one, above.

If you regret an abortion, or your involvement in one, whether you're a sibling, a mother, grandfather, uncle, whoever... a few more minutes with the videos that follow can help you begin finding out that God's not done with you yet either:

The women in the above video are mostly reading from their written stories, precisely because we are not professional actors, not professional speakers, not professional media people, and in most if not all cases, these would be the very first times we told our stories, not just in public, but in front of crowds, and with microphones amplifying our shame and our remorse. The only way to be sure we didn't choke or break down in tears, was to write it down beforehand.

There are a ton of Youtubes I could post, for the many more abortion recovery ministries and services out there. But if I did, this blog post would never end, and I'd never get some sleep. Our sidebar has all the links to those services. They are all confidential, you remain anonymous. And they can all be free, if you need that kind of assistance. All you have to do is ask.

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Monday, February 8, 2016

Super Bowl 50 Doritos Ad Trashed

Honestly, you just can't make this stuff up:
Abortion Activists Respond To Funny Doritos Ad About Babies With Bizarre Twitter Rants:
A Doritos ad depicting a hungry, unborn baby upset abortion rights activists. The ridiculous response shows the lack of art and beauty in pro-choice messages.
I didn't watch the Super Bowl, but I presume this is the ad, shown at this link (scroll down)

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New England Journal of Medicine "fails to show significant harm from Texas’s defunding of Planned Parenthood"

It is disappointing to see the New England Journal of Medicine once again use its prestige and influence in such a partisan manner. The release of this study was doubtless timed to coincide with oral arguments in Zubik v. Burwell on the Department of Health and Human Services contraception mandate. Unfortunately, this has become standard operating procedure for the New England Journal of Medicine. During the debate over the Affordable Care Act in 2010, it published a very superficial analysis of abortion trends in Massachusetts to make the case that wider health-care coverage could reduce the abortion rate. In reality, abortion numbers in Massachusetts had been falling for a long time, as they are virtually everywhere, and the enactment of Commonwealth Care in 2006 had little impact on the trend.

Overall good public-health data from Texas indicates that since Planned Parenthood was defunded, abortions have gone down significantly. Additionally, the overall birth rate has gone down slightly. Most importantly, there is no evidence that the unintended-pregnancy rate has gone up. Sadly, but unsurprisingly, these important statistics have gone largely unreported by the mainstream media.

Read the rest of the National Review piece. Read how the mainstream media spun even this to make it seem like they and the abortion industry were correct, when in fact, they're not quite, after all.

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Friday, January 29, 2016

Former Pro-Choice, Cosmo Writer On The Real Women's Movement

"The women’s movement in the beginning was very united around issues of equal access to education and opportunities in the work force. Abortion split the women’s movement in two. The pro-life movement has not declared a “war on women.” The pro-life movement represents an authentic branch of feminism that walked out the door the very night abortion was inserted into the women’s movement by a mere 57 people under some very diabolic influences.
"Early suffragists like Susan B. Anthony, Dr. Elizabeth Blackwell, and Elizabeth Cady Stanton were adamantly prolife. Alice Paul, mother of the 19th Amendment, which guaranteed women the right to vote, called abortion “the ultimate exploitation of women.” Although Betty Friedan eventually did succumb to abortion’s siren song, she didn’t even mention abortion in 1963 when she launched second wave feminism with The Feminine Mystique.

"...Having once been fired for being pregnant, [Betty] Friedan wrote in 2000, 'Ideologically, I was never for abortion. Motherhood is a value to me, and even today abortion is not...'
"Well, I woke up. After years of promoting the 'Cosmo Girl' lifestyle as a pathway to freedom, I realized the sexual revolution lifestyle is destroying women’s lives, wrecking families, and tearing apart our nation. On some level, I think I always was, at heart, a 'pro-life family feminist.' I just didn’t know it.
"Pro-life family feminists plainly see abortion for what it truly is: the debasement and betrayal of women."

- Susan Browder, on "The hijacking of the women’s movement, and the resurgence of pro-life feminism", January 22, 2016

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Thursday, January 28, 2016

The Most Important One Word in the Planned Parenthood Videographers' Indictment

It is also the one word Planned Parenthood and their media lapdogs hope you won't focus on:

"Daleiden was indicted for “prohibition of the purchase and sale of



It isn't just "a clump of cells," anymore. It isn't just a "blob of tissue," anymore. These were human beings, with human organs.

A few other facts to know:

  1. "...Planned Parenthood has announced a dubious 'policy change' to end these ...quality-based specimen payments from fetal tissue vendors ... After months of defending them as perfectly legal and appropriate, this seems like an admission of guilt."
  2. "Ken Paxton, Texas’ attorney general, has already announced that the state’s investigation of Planned Parenthood and the 'shameful disregard for human life of the abortion industry' is ongoing."
  3. "In this case, one of the prosecutors in the Harris County district attorney’s office sits on the board of Planned Parenthood, Gulf Coast."
  4. "When a second firm, Coalfire, found there hadn’t been such deception [in the editing of the videos], former Get Religionista Mollie Hemingway pointed out that almost no one covered those findings."
  5. "...if the grand jury believes that Daleiden should be charged with offering to buy a human organ, based on the videos, it almost inconceivable that the same grand jury would not also conclude that Planned Parenthood should be charged with violating the same statute by offering to sell him human organs."
  6. "Planned Parenthood attorney Josh Schaffer said a prosecutor told him the grand jury never even voted on possible criminal charges against the nation's largest abortion provider."
  7. "Over the past decades, there have been countless undercover video operations conducted by major news organizations at ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox News, CNN, and others, as well as local at news stations all over the country. Today, the Internet has made it possible for citizen-journalists and investigators to employ the same techniques to expose wrongdoing without the need for the major resources required by shows like CBS’s “60 Minutes.”

    "While this is not the case with the Texas statutes at issue, there are even some federal laws that encourage this type of behavior. For example, Title VIII of the Civil Rights Act of 1968 (the Fair Housing Act) authorizes private undercover testers and sponsoring organizations to recover damages if they discover discriminatory racial treatment in housing, even if they had no intention of moving in, or used fake identities (tampering with a government document!), or even if the conduct was illegal under state law!"

  8. " can’t help but notice the double standard. NBC’s David Gregory once waved an illegal high-capacity magazine at the NRA’s Wayne LaPierre during a contentious interview on Meet the Press. Gregory wasn’t prosecuted, even though District of Columbia police explicitly warned his news editor prior to the program that possessing the magazine was illegal under D.C. law; the police recommended showing a photograph instead. The prosecutor simply exercised his “prosecutorial discretion” to let Gregory off, scot-free, although Gregory had intentionally and knowingly defied the law. But there Gregory was taking on the NRA, the Left’s favorite bogeyman. Here, Daleiden had the misfortune of confronting the corporate heroes of the sexual revolution."
  9. "I’ve been following the coverage of five people who were arrested for blocking an oil train at a shipyard in Everett, Wash. They are climate activists who are using the necessity defense; an area of law that excuses criminal action if the defendant was doing so to avoid greater harm. They ended up being cleared of the train-blocking charge and only charged $200 each for criminal trespass, which was widely considered as being let off the hook and media such as the Seattle Weekly lauded this ruling as a 'victory.' So, why is the necessity defense OK when it comes to climate change but not acceptable when it comes to aborted remains being sold in a insider trade industry that was caught on film?"
  10. "Not a single Planned Parenthood executive caught on camera has come forward to deny that it is her voice, image or statements being depicted..."

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Saturday, January 23, 2016

"A Strange New Form of Oppression"

"Abortion can’t really turn back the clock. It can’t push the rewind button on life and make it so that she was never pregnant. It can make it easy for everyone around the woman to forget the pregnancy, but the woman herself may struggle. When she first sees the positive pregnancy test she may feel, in a panicky way, that she has to get rid of it as fast as possible. But life stretches on after abortion, for months and years — for many long nights — and all her life long she may ponder the irreversible choice she made. Abortion can’t push the rewind button on life and make it so she was never pregnant. It can make it easy for everyone around the woman to forget the pregnancy, but the woman herself may struggle.

"This issue gets presented as if it’s a tug of war between the woman and the baby. We see them as mortal enemies, locked in a fight to the death. But that’s a strange idea, isn’t it? It must be the first time in history when mothers and their own children have been assumed to be at war. We’re supposed to picture the child attacking her, trying to destroy her hopes and plans, and picture the woman grateful for the abortion, since it rescued her from the clutches of her child.

"If you were in charge of a nature preserve and you noticed that the pregnant female mammals were trying to miscarry their pregnancies, eating poisonous plants or injuring themselves, what would you do? Would you think of it as a battle between the pregnant female and her unborn and find ways to help those pregnant animals miscarry? No, of course not. You would immediately think, 'Something must be really wrong in this environment.' Something is creating intolerable stress, so much so that animals would rather destroy their own offspring than bring them into the world. You would strive to identify and correct whatever factors were causing this stress in the animals.

"The same thing goes for the human animal. Abortion gets presented to us as if it’s something women want; both pro-choice and pro-life rhetoric can reinforce that idea. But women do this only if all their other options look worse. It’s supposed to be 'her choice,' yet so many women say, 'I really didn’t have a choice.'"

Ms. Frederica Mathewes-Green asks some good questions. "When does a man ever have to choose between his career and the life of his child?"

"I’m only 5 foot 1. Women, in general, are smaller than men. Do we really want to advance a principle that big people have more value than small people?"

"Do we really want to say that 'unwanted' people might as well be dead?"

Mathewes-Green, who used to be an avid pro-choice feminist, became famous originally because of this quote:

“No one wants an abortion as she wants an ice cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal, caught in a trap, wants to gnaw off its own leg.”
She continues today in this article:
"Strange, isn’t it, that both pro-choice and pro-life people agree that is true? Abortion is a horrible and harrowing experience. That women choose it so frequently shows how much worse continuing a pregnancy can be. Essentially, we’ve agreed to surgically alter women so that they can get along in a man’s world. And then expect them to be grateful for it. Nobody wants to have an abortion. And if nobody wants to have an abortion, why are women doing it, 2,800 times a day? If women doing something 2,800 times daily that they don’t want to do, this is not liberation we’ve won. We are colluding in a strange new form of oppression."
And she believes there is an eventual tide turning:
"Future generations, as they look back, are not necessarily going to go easy on ours. Our bland acceptance of abortion is not going to look like an understandable goof. In fact, the kind of hatred that people now level at Nazis and slave-owners may well fall upon our era. Future generations can accurately say, “It’s not like they didn’t know.” They can say, “After all, they had sonograms.” They may consider this bloodshed to be a form of genocide. They might judge our generation to be monsters. One day, the tide is going to turn. With that Supreme Court decision 43 years ago, one of the sides in the abortion debate won the day. But sooner or later, that day will end. No generation can rule from the grave. The time is coming when a younger generation will sit in judgment of ours. And they are not obligated to be kind."
In the meantime, the real pro-life folks will just keep offering help in the form of concrete assistance avoiding abortions while still managing to live, to survive, to thrive in their own lives. Multiple links for all that assistance, at the top of both our blogs, and in the sidebars. The evening news won't tell you about all that assistance though, because they're afraid to, politically correct creatures that they are.

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Feminists, Kelsey Grammar, Former Abortion Clinic Workers, Many More Brave The DC Blizzard at March For Life 2016

First of all, no one's forcing anyone to do or not do anything: Humans have free will. The pro-life movement is trying to make legal abortion less available, sure, but we're also trying to make cultural changes so that women won't want to seek abortions in the first place, and we have no interest in legal punishment for women who've had abortions.

Second, society projects a moral code on people every day. We have laws to prevent harm. It could easily be said that police are "taking away the right to make their own personal decisions" from burglars or drunk drivers — society has deemed that these things do harm and should not be done. We also hinder body autonomy (snorting cocaine, for example, is illegal).

We as a society agree that we cannot do whatever we want with our bodies. (If you don't agree, try dancing naked in the street and see what happens.) So not only do I think that there's such thing as a pro-life feminist, I also believe that to be pro-life is to be feminist. To quote the slogan of Feminists for Life, "Women deserve better than abortion." Here is what I wish people understood about my position:

Read the rest of this great article in Vox by Claire Swinarski:

The annual March for Life is this week. On Friday, you might glimpse pictures of thousands of freezing people marching on Washington to protest abortion. They are not just conservative, mindless drones. They support women.

Hillary Clinton's a mother, and she's running for president. Adele's a mother, and she released the biggest No. 1 single in three years in 2015. Madeleine Albright, J.K. Rowling: Mothers — successful, thriving mothers — are everywhere. Having children should not rob you of your identity or your purpose. Pro-life feminists believe it doesn't have to.

Kelsey Grammar at the March. I have a newfound admiration for the cajunes it took for him to not only be there but allow himself to be photographed by several.

Many bus routes apparently had been cancelled due to the 2 to 3 feet of snow predicted there, so the crowds were smaller than in years past. Still, tens of thousands in the face of all that snow and blizzard warnings, isn't chump change.

Oh, and if you watch CBS "News", they chose not to cover the March at all. See? That's how you don't get all the real news, because they. withhold. it. from. you. Yet you keep getting kept in the dark and erroneosly believe you really are well-informed.

I'm pleased to learn that Carly Fiorina   spoke to the crowd (saddened to learn she was the only candidate to do so, though). She may not be the eventual GOP nominee, but she's right when she says she alone would be "Hillary's worst nightmare:"

“You know, Planned Parenthood actually shows up at my events,” Fiorina said. “So let me say this to the Planned Parenthood supporters: You can scream and throw condoms at me all day long. You won’t silence me. You don’t scare me. I have battled breast cancer. I have buried a child. I have read the Bible. I know the value of life.”

Photos here, here, here.

Some great posters/photos there, including:

  • "In 900 years of time and space, I've never met anyone who wasn't important." The Doctor.
  • "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." Dr.Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • "Mr. President, how can we move forward if we abort the future."
  • One very cute, longhaired, Dan-Fogelberg-look-alike held a hand-written sign, "I LOVE WOMEN *AND* BABIES."
  • "I worked in the abortion industry. I am now Pro-Life. You can Quit. Quitting is Courageous. "
  • A huge banner in one photo read "PRO BIKERS FOR LIFE." I guess I've been out of the loop awhile, but these guys are motorcyclists, in several states. Will add them to the sidebar over at Abortion Punidt blog.
But this one has to be the best:

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Friday, January 22, 2016

Pelosi's Pinocchio Nose, And Some Americans Just Stay Dumber

Last week, House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi held forth on abortion in a surreal interview with Melinda Henneberger, editor-in-chief of Roll Call, a Capitol Hill newspaper. Pelosi, the highest-ranking Democrat the House of Representatives, achieved the near-impossible: She left both proponents of legal abortion and opponents slapping their heads in bewilderment.

“I don’t believe in abortion on demand,” Pelosi said. “I don’t believe that abortion is a form of birth control or contraception.” These comments provoked a rebuke from Pelosi’s usual ally, NARAL, the nation’s most prominent pro-choice group. NARAL called her comments “particularly disappointing and ill-advised.”

The group shouldn’t have bothered. Pelosi also said she favors no limits on when abortions should be performed—or why. She claimed that the real issue was “Republican men” who are opposed to contraception, while repeating the canard that the undercover Planned Parenthood sting videos that roiled the pro-life community were “doctored.”

In the interview, Pelosi emphasized her Catholicism. Henneberger, who is also Catholic, refrained from reminding Pelosi about the biblical admonition against bearing false witness against one’s neighbor. One of the Ten Commandments, it is surely the one most frequently broken in U.S. presidential election years.


In her Roll Call interview, the former House speaker dismissed the undercover videos in which Planned Parenthood officials discuss trafficking in fetal parts as “doctored.”

This is a frequent Democratic Party refrain, but it apparently isn’t true. Melinda Henneberger pointed out to Pelosi that a Planned Parenthood-sponsored study concluded that the tapes were not substantively tampered with. [this blogger's emphasis] “I did not sit down and watch their doctored versions of what may have happened,” Pelosi replied robotically, “and I still say they’re doctored.”

It’s fair to ask when contemplating dissemination of such misinformation from high-ranking public officials whether they are actually lying or whether they are just ignorant—or if that’s a difference without a distinction.

When George W. Bush was president, he insisted that all of the murderers executed in Texas when he was governor had, in fact, been guilty. Surely Bush wanted to believe that, just as he believed Iraq was awash in weapons of mass destruction when ordering the U.S. invasion in 2003. But Texas’ criminal justice system provides scant resources for indigent defendants, imposes strict time limits on criminal appeals, and has little in the way of executive branch or parole-board review of trial verdicts. So Bush was saying what he hoped was true, not really knowing whether it was or was not.

Is this a form of untruthfulness? One Bush critic, liberal journalist David Corn, told me at the time that it was. Corn termed such communication “a kind of willful disregard for the truth, which is the moral equivalent of lying.”

Voters beware.

So Pelosi continues to pull a sort of "Nyah-Nyah," a "Fingers-in-the-ears-LA-LA-LA-LA-LA-I'M-NOT-LISTENING-TO-YOU", and those Americans who choose to think like Pelosi are the ones choosing to stay dumber. What a great American leader you've got there.

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Thursday, January 21, 2016

I'd Give Hillary A Million Dollars, If I Could...

... to make her sit down, in a nice, private, secure setting, and watch this, without distraction, without interruption, without speaking, without looking away:

And if you (might) support Hillary, so should you, if you think you are mature enough to handle real truth.

Learn what these defenders of Americans tried to do and then did, against direct orders, to actually defend Americans:

Then, since this movie doesn't answer this question, but raises it: go DYOR as to why there wasn't even close to enough proper security for an American embassy compound in one of the two most dangerous places in the world at that time. I could provide you with links to the research and reporting on this, but then, you won't really learn anything from that. [Hint: don't rely on your usual sources as mentioned in the next paragraph]

I guarantee you didn't see or hear any of this truth on the major news shows, papers, Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, HuffPo, Politico, Mother Jones, Slate, etc., in 2012, or since.

Yet it took a Boston University journalism professor to work with these men, to produce the book account of their actual experience, and now Michael Bay, to produce the movie from that book.

Learn some truth. How Obama-and-Hillary-led America did nothing, essentially, for 13 entire hours, in the dark of night, while Americans were attacked and killed, and six-count-em-six former special-ops soldiers fended off wave after wave of attacks, to protect the lives of some twenty other Americans.

Don't like your Hollywood bang-bang-shoot-em-up action films to be so real that they're actually, well, real? Prefer your war movies to be zombies or make-believe war like Warcraft: elaborate, exciting and totally fake? Welcome to the the real world. Time to grow up and really grow a pair. Not since Blackhawk Down have you really had the slightest chance to actually be terrified, in a movie, for real human beings, because they were real.

Think you're mature? Think you're very good at facing truth? Think you've already got all the truth you need because you watch/read CNN and the above-mentioned news-genre so you're sure to be the best-informed?

Prove it, then. Go to the theatres, tonight, tomorrow, Saturday, whenever, and see the film, if you're so enlightened, so grown-up, so knowledgeable, so able to recognize and handle "truth" when you see it.

If you don't go see it, your head's in the sand. You just want the world to "feel your pain," but you won't give a rat's ass about the truth of real pain, real terror, real fear, real hopelessness, in others.

Why am I so angry? Have the cajunes to watch the damn film and you'll see why. You all should be as angry over it. You all should be shaking in your seats through the whole thing, and weeping at the end, as I did.

Because this current administration, Hillary included, for their lack of securing those Americans' lives, with all the pleas they received for increased security, for military protection for months beforehand, are to blame for what happened that day in Benghazi. Not George W. Bush, not Dick Cheney, not Karl Rove, and certainly not some damn unrelated video.

No one but Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton are responsible for the terror those Americans were abandoned to that night, and for the deaths of those four Americans. And no one but you, all of us, are responsible for holding them responsible for it.

You'd be thinking quite differently than you do now, Hillary-supporters, if it was your American ass in that compound or annex that night.

Sleep tight, nighty-night, safe in your warm beds tonight, now, ya hear?

Other reviews of the film well-worth reading here, here and had it been written now, especially here.

And what does this have to do with abortion? Not a g-d thing. Except unnecessary death. So sue me if I speak out about it.

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Wednesday, September 23, 2015

#ShoutYourAbortion Old News: Try A Million Shouting It At You

This pro-choice woman set up this campaign, but she isn't too young to remember that the real truth about pro-choice folks is the exact reverse of what she believes is true.

She writes about her friend having written about

“...The assumption that abortion is still something to be whispered about.” That struck me hard. The fact that even progressive, outspoken, pro-choice feminists feel the pressure to keep our abortions under wraps – to speak about them only in corners, in murmurs, in private with our closest confidantes – means that opponents of abortion get to define it however suits them best. They can cast those of us who have had abortions as callous monstrosities, and seed fear in anyone who might need one by insisting that the procedure is always traumatic, always painful, always an impossible decision. Well, we’re not, and it’s not.
First of all, congratulations. You've arrived on Twitter, and here's what that amounts to.

More importantly, I'm amazed at the lack of awareness by these women. And to say that "my country is full of heavily armed, anti-intellectual GOP wingnuts", shows considerable ignorance as well.

I know there are bad elements on the pro-life side who are vicious--I've tried to shout those very same people down and shut them up. They are not the majority of those siding with life, however. They're just the ones the pro-choice media likes to give the only ink to, so you will think that they are. And you fell for it.

I'm not heavily-armed, I graduated from a good four-year college, and I love to read, and write, and debate and study politics. I could but I won't stoop to calling you the opposite equivalent of a wingnut, so let's grow up a bit and then we'll be taken a bit more seriously, hmmm?

But understand one big truth: being for one's abortion certainly has never suffered from forced-whispering-about.

In fact, "telling [pro-abortion] stories at full volume" is so not new, and this tweeter should know that. She was 22 when this over one-decade-old event proved that there is no pressure whatsoever to keep your pro-abortion stance under wraps:

"I consider myself fairly far along on the 'healing' and 'public-appearances' scales. We stood, all 500 of us in the Silent No More Awareness groups, in total silence as planned, for over five hours, not replying or saying one word to anything that was said or done to us, and I do mean anything.

"But nothing prepared me for literally mobs of livid people screaming the most hateful vicious snide things at me personally. We were spit on, and had an egg hurled at us from the marchers. There were two groups of Satanists. And the signs. Like the guy who held a handmade sign, 'BABY KILLER' with an arrow pointed downward at himself. If not for the riot police, we would have been mobbed. There was that much viciousness. People broke through the riot police's invisible line just to come up in my face and hurl insulting words. There were not enough police to form a complete line, so they would run up to me, shout out their abuse, and run back before the policeman or woman got to stop him/her. And I said nothing to anyone, just held my sign."

Like these women and men holding their signs:

Those signs, and our utter silence, are what drove hundreds of thousands, perhaps a million, pro-choice marchers that day in Washington, DC, to frothing-mouthed, screaming, violent hatred, all directed at just us, mostly women, who've come to regret our abortions.

So please, don't tell me you haven't been able to "tell your stories at full volume!"

We're the ones who've been "chipping away at the stigma, the lies, the climate of shame." It's the pro-abortion advocates who have been lying to women for decades, not the pro-life ones.

We who know the regret, the remorse, we don't tell you that all women will feel regret or remorse. If you'd have listened and read us real closely, you'd already know that.

We're the ones chipping away at being condemned by both sides of the argument: by so-called moralists/Christians who condemn us for what we now know to be our sins, and by you who are pro-choice, who condemn us for coming to regret having had our abortions and for showing you the scientific truth of what a late term aborted child looks like and acts like as it dies in a metal dish.

No priest, Christian or video made me realize I'd done wrong when I aborted my only daughter. No outside factor caused me to feel shame or grief.

Having my son drove home the fact of what I'd done, and deep, deep down, I always felt, in my heart, it had been wrong. I'd bet my very life that that's all it took for most if not all of us who have come to regret.

Will you dismiss our hearts for "defining it however suits them best", too? Are only pro-choice women allowed to trust their hearts, their instincts, their feelings?

Did you ever stop to think of the possibility that if pro-choice women don't talk about it, it perhaps says more about how they might secretly feel about it than that they are forced to "keep it under wraps"?

I don't cast you as a callous monstrosity. I don't say it's always traumatic or painful. I don't "define it however suits me best." It defines itself in the picture of the dying baby in the metal dish.

The reason why you can't stop this image from wrenching the vast majority of all people's hearts is that there are far too many women who have seen this picture before, in living color, in the dead bodies of their own children, whether after saline abortions. thrown into a glass jar, or after suction abortions, in beakers or buckets on the countertop. I don't "seed fear in anyone who might need one", though the truth might do that all on its own, yet I have never seen you or your friends "dispel fear" by helping those who might need one to actually see all their real choices--I've never seen your friends funding the alternative choice offered by the over 3,000 crisis pregnancy centers that the pro-life folks, many of us post-abortive ourselves, have been doing for decades.

"Why wouldn’t I be happy that I was not forced to become a mother?"

That's what the famed President said.

Forced? Were you raped? Only in that case were you forced to be a mother. Otherwise, it was my choice, and yours, to have sex, knowing full well the potential result is a pregnancy. We're not stupid little girls who don't know that sex is how you get babies.

I have no one but myself to blame. Why do you think you have someone else to blame?

And the scientific truth is, the un-rewritten/un-politically-correct medical school textbooks and world-renowned embryologists already know, that you and I already became mothers, when we first conceived.

I've never let myself be lumped in with those you say are "terrorising" you, and I'm not about to start now. Pro-choice or pro-abortion folks here in the U.S. have got the President and virtually the entire media, on your side. We're the ones who need a little support in speaking up so we can find healing from our pain, and maybe, help someone we love to not have to risk this life of pain in the first place. Yet you want to silence us. That's rich.

Sadly, abortion will probably always be legal in the United States. Even if Roe v. Wade were overturned, nothing changes. It would have to be made illegal in each of the 50 states as well before it was banned entirely, so for those of you frothing over the Planned Parenthood defunding, chill out. They get tons of money too from private donors, always have, always will, so as long as you keep drinking their Kool-Aid, you're set.

And not for nothing, but you're three years younger than my daughter would have been. Go hug your mom.

Someone ought to hashtag that.


A few pro-life Tweets to that pro-choice hashtag are worth checking out here, especially Gianna Jessen, Jewels Green, FeministsNonviolence, ELLYMAYE, Sister Toldjah, and Melissa.

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Friday, September 11, 2015

Prayers for all those lost, and who lost loved ones, on this day 14 years ago

The world worsened, for all of us, that day.

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