There are a number of programs for people who are experiencing distress after abortion. A friend has directed me to a resource that has been created for women who have already attended a retreat or a support group and who have lingering shame issues. She highly recommends it.
In the Garden of the New Creation is available here.
Shame can be hard to overcome. A really shame-ridden person will even find it painful to have this pointed out to them. If a therapist says, "It sounds like you are carrying a lot of shame," she is likely to hear that as "There's something really wrong with you; you are broken", when what the therapist means is "You see yourself as fundamentally flawed and damaged but you're not and we can overcome that together."
The front page of In the Garden of the New Creation has this quote from Song of Songs. People who can't imagine feeling this way about themselves can benefit enormously from self-help books like this one and from therapy.
"You are an enclosed garden,
My sister, my bride,
An enclosed garden, a fountain sealed.
You are a paradise that puts forth pomegranates,
With all the fruits of the orchard,
Nard and saffron, calumus and cinnamon,
with trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
and all the finest perfumes.
You are a garden fountain,
a well of living water,
flowing fresh from Lebanon.
Arise North Wind! Come South Wind!
Blow upon my garden,
that its perfumes may spread abroad."
--Song of Songs 4:12-16