"There is no day without many losses.
"If we are attentive to our inner life, we quickly realize how many times things are not happening in the way we hoped, people aren't saying what we expected, the day is not evolving as we wanted, and so on and so on. All these little 'losses' can make us bitter people who complain that life is not fair to us...
"Your losses remind you that all isn't perfect, that you had hoped many events in your life would not have been so painful, but they were. You find yourself disillusioned with the irrevocable personal losses; your health, your spouse, your lover, your job, your hope, your dream.
"Your whole life is filled with losses, endless losses. And every time there are losses there are choices to be made. You choose to live your losses as passages to anger, blame, hatred, depression, and resentment, or you choose to let these losses be passages to something new, something wider, and deeper. The question is not how to avoid loss and make it not happen, but how to choose it as a passage, as an exodus to greater life and freedom."
~ Henri J.M. Nouwen