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Friday, January 9, 2004

Thomas Hibbs at National Review Online looks today at how abortion features in two art-house movies now in release, 21 Grams and In America.

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Matt Kaufman at Boundless on Abortion and Rape.

He tells an interesting story about what happened at Harvard to Women Deserve Better posters.

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Aini's story below is no different from the stories of countless teenagers living with the pain of a past abortion.

Depression, constant thoughts about the baby and what could have been, fear of being "found out". Her boyfriend promised her marriage if she would abort. As is often the case, after the abortion the relationship ended anyway. True, there were many issues in this girl's life prior to abortion...more of a reason to have 24 hour waiting periods, screening, etc., instead of just blowing her off as damaged prior to the abortion in order to explain and try to justify her suffering. The truth is, countless women suffer whether there were prior issues or not....

So scared friends will find out her dark secret

SHE is back in school with a dark secret: She was pregnant at 15.

In February 2002, Aini (not her real name) had wanted to keep the baby. But her boyfriend, 22, persuaded her to abort it five months into the pregnancy and paid the bills of $2,000.

Now 17, Aini is picking up the pieces of her life - she started school at the Institute of Technical Education (ITE) on Monday after missing out for more than a year.

But she is worried her new friends will discover her past. 'A few classmates asked me for my phone number, but I told them I don't have a phone,' said Aini.

The only number she has to give is that of the Pertapis Centre for Women and Girls.

She has called the place home since June 2002, after her mother got a Beyond Parental Control court order on her. 'It can only lead to more questions, questions I'm not ready to answer yet,' she sighed.

This anxiety comes on top of the intense regret she feels about the abortion.

'Whenever I have time, I think about what could have been. How old the baby would be now. I never should have gone through with it,' she said.

She also has to contend with heartbreak and suffers from depression.

'(My lover) promised to marry me, and I believed him. He said he wasn't ready for a baby yet, and I didn't want to lose him, so I went ahead with the abortion. In the end, he left me all the same,' said Aini, now in tears.

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Today's an anniversary; the tenth anniversary of The Lorena Bobbitt Incident.

It's also the 13th anniversary of the abortion John Bobbitt insisted Lorena obtain. The Elliot Institute thinks there is a connection:

"According to Dr. David Reardon, 'All the evidence presented at Lorena's trial supports the view that her psychiatric symptoms of depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) were precipitated by a coerced abortion three days before their first wedding anniversary. Lorena pleaded to keep her child and gave in to the abortion only because she was pressured into it by John. Like other women before her, Lorena experienced the unwanted abortion as an attack on both her maternity and her sexuality. That is the key to understanding her subsequent attack on John.'

     'The timing of the cutting incident was not coincidental," says Reardon. 'Between 30 and 40 percent of women who report post-abortion problems experience more intense symptoms around the anniversary date of the abortion. For these women, the anniversary is a connector back to unresolved grief, which can exhibit itself in the guise of psychosomatic illnesses, increased depression, and uncontrollable fits of rage, all of which Lorena experienced.'

     Lorena's abortion was on June 15, 1990. On June 18, 1993, she went to her doctor complaining of hyperventilation, cramping, and anxiety attacks. 'These psychosomatic symptoms are all typical of a post-abortion anniversary reaction,' said Reardon. 'The cutting incident occurred five days later, only minutes after she experienced flashbacks to the abortion, another common post-abortion reaction.'

     Reardon assisted Lorena Bobbitt's defense team in identifying the anniversary reaction which occurred at the time of the attack. He also helped Lorena's defense attorneys to procure the aid of a post-abortion therapist prior to the trial.

     'While I did not have access to any privileged communications in the preparation of this report,' Reardon said, 'all of the facts supporting this analysis can be found in the court transcripts, which include expert witness testimonies. When you combine these facts with known patterns of post-abortion reactions, it is clear that Lorena's abortion trauma profoundly magnified the couple's problems and influenced everything she did on the night of the attack.'

     According to research cited in Reardon's analysis of the Bobbitt case, nearly 60% of women who experience post-abortion problems report that after their abortions, they lost their tempers more easily and became more violent when angry. If both the woman and her partner were involved in the abortion, mutual feelings of guilt and antagonism may magnify hostilities even more. 'This problem,' Reardon says, 'can make the resolution of spousal abuse very difficult. Women may refuse to leave violent relationships because intense feelings of guilt and lowered self-esteem may make them more prone to self-destructive behavior. They may continue to expose themselves to the risk of violence because they feel they deserve to be punished.'

     Reardon adds that abortion is implicated in the cutting incident not only by the timing of the attack, but also by the manner in which she attacked John. 'Lorena felt as though her abortion had left her sexually mutilated, and she blamed John for making her have it. That she chose to attack John's sexuality, not his life, indicates that Lorena was subconsciously choosing to retaliate in kind -- 'an eye for an eye,' so to speak.'"


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Bishop Raymond Burke of Wisconsin has sent out a decree stating that politicians in his diocese who support abortion will no longer be able to receive communion until they publicly renounce their support .

I admire the courage of Bishop Burke not only in upholding the teaching of the church but in truly shepherding the flock by letting the politicians who support abortion know the danger they are putting their souls in. As we all know, there is no way to be both pro abortion and Catholic. These people need our prayers.

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Thursday, January 8, 2004

Props to us from Technorati's Top 50 Interesting Newcomers.

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Gollum's Soliloquy,
posted today on Citizen Link, Gary Schneeberger mentions that when he watched The Return of the King, several people in the audience snickered at the scene where Golllum wrestles with his conscience.

"But when sin, and its terrible power to destroy, becomes just another excuse to share a few giggles and grins, it's an altogether different, and altogether sadder, story.

As Christians we are called to 'love the sinner and hate the sin.' When we laugh at somebody suffering in his sin, don't we have the equation exactly backwards? And if we can't get it right, what hope do we have of helping the culture catch on?

The answer to that question seemed to be 'zero' the other night, when I flipped through the cable channels and happened upon a stand-up comedian who closed her act by thanking the audience for giving her 'the best anniversary of my abortion ever.' Shock doesn't begin to cover my reaction — and I don't shock easily. A joke about murdering babies. In prime time. Not one note of offense sounded by the audience. Lord help us."

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Here are some programs to be sure to catch. They are going to be aired on EWTN, and feature Dave Reardon of The Elliot Institute and Theresa Burke of Rachel's Vineyard.

Understanding the Keys to Ending Abortion
Friday, January 16, 2004, 4:30 AM
Friday, January 16, 2004, 6:00 PM

Mercy is More Powerful Than Shame
Monday January 19, 2004, 4:30 AM
Monday, January 19, 2004 6:00 PM

Psychological and Spiritual Costs of Abortion
Tuesday, January 20, 2004. 6:00 PM

Holding Abortionists Accountable
Wednesday, January 21, 2004, 4:30 AM
Wednesday, January 21, 2004, 6:00 PM

Abortion Politics: The Problem and the Solution
Thursday, January 22, 2004, 4:30 AM
Thursday January 22, 2004, 6:00 PM

Three-prong Strategy to End Abortion
Friday, January 23, 2004, 4:30 AM
Friday, January 23, 2004, 6:00 PM

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Wednesday, January 7, 2004

This blogging is all new to me...hopefully I will get the hang of it...

As a means of introduction, my name is Theresa Bonopartis and I am the program coordinator for Lumina, a post-abortion referral service in the New York area. In addition to referrals, we do trainings for therapists, lay and clergy. We also do a lot of public speaking and education on post-abortion issues (which is why I probably will be scarce this month). It is very exciting to finally see the truth getting out about how abortion damages women and to be able to witness so many avenues of help open up to them across the country so that they do not have to suffer alone in shame and silence anymore!

I have been privileged to work in post-abortion ministry for about 12 years. In addition to Lumina, I work with The Sisters of Life in New York in a post-abortion ministry. We just began our eighth year. It is very exciting as our manual is currently in the process of being published! We do retreat days, groups and weekend retreats two times a year.

So how did I get so involved? You'll have to order the Friar's tape to find out. Only kidding, (but it would be great if you is a great means of evangelization).

Or you can read my story here.
I did NOT name it...pretty humbling)

I myself am was pre-Roe v Wade but legal in New York at the time. I suffered for years looking for help and for someone to legitimize my feelings only to be told (as so many still are) to get on with my life. I tried but was unsuccessful. Working as a drug and alcohol abuse counselor I dealt with many women who were suffering from abortion, but I did not know how to help them because I had not found help myself. I ended up burning out...although it seemed like the end, it was really the beginning of a new life for me.

Long story short, I found healing and became determined, by the grace of God, to bring the message to others so they would not have to live in that hell.

I also am involved in Silent No More (both of them). If any of you are in the area we will be doing one in Manhattan on January 16th at 12 pm on 6th Ave between 49th & 50th. This will be our second NYC gathering...what a witness in the middle of Manhattan during lunch hour!!!

Thanks Emily, for being faithful in spreading the news! Hopefully this will continue to grow....

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Welcome, Theresa! Theresa is the head of Lumina, a post-abortion ministry based in New York. She frequently speaks about her personal abortion experience.

Theresa mentioned testimonies from men. Here's another one.

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I have just joined the ranks of bloggers!

Here is a great testimony by a guy.

People often think that they do not suffer but I truly do not think that is the case. I have met many guys who are suffering deeply from aborting their children.

Considering how difficult it is for even women to speak about this, it is no wonder few men have gone public...

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Tuesday, January 6, 2004

Survival of the Fittest, a story about sex-selection abortions in India. That's where very small and unusually defenseless baby girls are killed because they are girls.

When Americans read stories like this, whether they are pro-choice or pro-life, they are apt to think something like, "Oh, those poor (backward) people. How sad. How they victimize their young women and leave them no choice."

What's really sad is that in America, we're into the far more barbaric practice of whacking both genders and simultaneously persuading young women that it was just their individual choice, having nothing to do with family, relationship or societal conditions.

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Biased reporting on abortion/breast cancer link still a problem.

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From the Scrappleface News Service, Judge Repeals Parental Notice for Abortion, Driver's License:

-- A federal judge today declared a New Hampshire law unconstitutional which requires parental permission before a minor can drive an automobile. Last week the same judge struck down a parental notification provision in the state's abortion law.

U.S. District Judge Joseph DiClerico said the driver's license law is unconstitutional because it lacks an exception to protect the minor's health. Judge DiClerico's ruling included the following example: "If an unlicensed 16-year-old girl, home alone, needed to drive somewhere to get an emergency abortion to protect her health, she would have to violate state law to do so since she didn't have her parent's permission to operate the motor vehicle."

"This is unqualified good news," said a spokesman for the National Driver's Rights Action League Pro-Choice America (NDRAL), "Teens across the Granite State have been further freed from the oppressive rule of their narrow-minded parents."

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Monday, January 5, 2004

A number of fine articles are posted at GodSpy.

The Cultural Victory of Hugh Hefner.

"Thanks largely to Hefner's pioneering spirit, men have won every battle in the modern war between the sexes. Where women are free and equal, they are free and equal to be men. Just go shopping at the Gap. Or pick up any women's magazine published in the last few decades. In it you will find an article, essay, or questionnaire demonstrating or demanding that women should have more sex than they are currently having. Is there an escape, a way out, a means by which a woman can choose not to have her social norms and sexual drives dictated to by porn culture?


The Playboy Philosophy, which requires women to be thin, infertile, and always available, essentially requires childlessness. And you can bet your birth control packet that abortion is the natural bedfellow of the successful playboy. The Playboy Foundation, the (ahem) philanthropic wing of Playboy Enterprises, provides grants and donations to a wide range of projects, most involving reproductive rights and freedom of speech—industry code for promoting sexual license as a natural right and abortion as a failsafe guarantee. Hence the heavy support of the ACLU, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, and similarly single-minded organizations."

The Opposite of Free Love is about human trafficking:

"The first case of trafficking prosecuted in the United States involved women as young as fourteen years old who were trafficked from Mexico into Florida in 1999. The victims were forced to prostitute themselves with as many as 130 men per week in a trailer park. Of the $25 charged to the "Johns," the women received $3. Threatened by rape and other physical abuse, the women were kept hostage by members of a trafficking ring known as 'Cadena.' One woman who tried to escape was kept in a closet for fifteen days. Others were forced to have abortions, the cost of which was added to their debt of $2,000 to $3,000 each."

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Annie Banno sent this link along.

It's a long discussion at Free Republic, now months old. It was motivated by a column Annie wrote for Catholic Exchange for Mother's Day 2003.

It's January, so the time is rolling around for the 2nd annual Silent No More Awareness rally on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court.

Good to be reminded of the diversity of opinion within the pro-life community to women who speak out about their abortion regrets.

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If you can get past the post-modern stance, this extended comment on the Cider House Rules makes a good point.

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Sunday, January 4, 2004

Scars and Lies: One Woman's Journey from Abortion to Healing.

From the diocesan newspaper in Charlotte, North Carolina--this is an excellent article about Constance Russo. Constance is the new Communications Director for Rachel's Vineyard Ministries.

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Fostering Healing: Rachel's Vineyard harvests hope in Ireland.

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