an After abortion

REAL, CONFIDENTIAL, FREE, NON-JUDGMENTAL HELP TO AVOID ABORTION, FROM MANY PLACES:
3,400 confidential and totally free groups to call and go to in the U.S...1,400 outside the U.S. . . . 98 of these in Canada.
Free, financial help given to women and families in need.More help given to women, families.
Helping with mortgage payments and more.More help.
The $1,950 need has been met!CPCs help women with groceries, clothing, cribs, "safe haven" places.
Help for those whose babies haveDown Syndrome and Other Birth Defects.
CALL 1-888-510-BABY or click on the picture on the left, if you gave birth or are about to and can't care for your baby, to give your baby to a worker at a nearby hospital (some states also include police stations or fire stations), NO QUESTIONS ASKED. YOU WON'T GET IN ANY TROUBLE or even have to tell your name; Safehaven people will help the baby be adopted and cared for.

Saturday, January 15, 2005

Demi writes about abortion as a tool of the patriarchy in Meet the New Boss, Same as the Old Boss.

It put me in mind of something Germaine Greer wrote in her 1999 book, The Whole Woman:

What women 'won' was the right to undergo invasive procedures in order to terminate unwanted pregnancies, unwanted not just by them but by their parents, their sexual partners, the governments who would not support mothers, the employers who would not employ mothers, the landlords who would not accept tenants with children, the schools who would not accept students with children...

If the child is unwanted, whether by her or her partner or parents, it will be her duty to undergo an invasive procedure and an emotional trauma and so sort the situation out. The crowning insult is that this ordeal is represented to her as some kind of a privilege. Her sad and onerous duty is garbed in the rhetoric of a civil right. Where other people decide that a woman's baby should not be born she will be pressured to carry out her duty to herself, to the fetus, to other people, to the health establishment, to the state by undergoing abortion. Her autonomy is the least important consideration. In both cases she is confronted by people who know better than she what she ought to do.
One of the reviewers at Amazon says that if one's wife reads Greer's book, she'll be mad for a month. Like many women, when I grabbed the ripe fruit of abortion, I believed it was an autonomous, empowering and liberating choice. It's relatively easy for me to see my own moral failure in that tragic mistake and to be angry at myself. It comes easier to me to throw rocks at myself than at others. It was hard for me to come to grips with the fact that although it was my hand that reached out for this shiny new consumer product, my child and I had a crowd behind me with their fingers crossed, hoping my fingers would curl tightly around a choice that would make their lives so much easier.

0 comment(s): (ANONYMOUS ok -but mind our rules, please)                                      << HOME