"Mama, did you ever want to abort me?”
"Nine years after my first abortion, just three years after the second, I began to have nightmares. I realized my abortions had nearly destroyed my life. I learned that my problems with guilt, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, nightmares, and alcohol are actually not uncommon with women who have had abortions.The article is by Karen Cross, who got involved in the "activism" side of the ideological divide about abortion's rightness or wrongness. But that's not why I thought it worth noting. She writes of how her abortions affected her mother, her relationship with her, her children, her whole family.
"...Fortunately, now there are post-abortion support groups that provide a woman with a safe place where she can discover that she is not alone and can deal with her grief, accept forgiveness, and finally forgive herself and others.
"As I began to heal, I realized that not only had the abortions affected me and my life, they had a profound effect on those closest to me – my children and my parents.
"Each of my children handled learning about my abortions differently.
"When my daughter was nine she overheard me talking about my abortions. After the tears came the questions..."
She also urges folks as we have long urged folks:
"...I would offer a word of caution to my pro-life friends. In your zeal to protect life, please be careful with the words you choose to use.
"There have been more than 55 million abortions in the U.S. since 1973. This means that everywhere you go, there are people who have participated in abortion. They may have had one (or more), paid for one, or maybe they have taken their sister, daughter, or girlfriend for an abortion. In every convention I meet people who are in pain because of abortion. During last week’s 43rd annual convention, I met parents, grandparents, siblings, and friends of babies who were regretfully aborted.
"Very often we hear statistical research about abortion. However we must remember that behind each statistic is a real person – with a family forever changed...We may never know the extent to which abortion has affected our culture. There are millions of women and families who need healing. We must be willing to reach out to them with unconditional love."