an After abortion: 03/16/2003 - 03/23/2003

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Saturday, March 22, 2003

Lawsuit to overturn Roe?

Boston Globe article about lawsuit to overturn Roe. The suit relies on testimony from three post-abortive women who were either coerced into abortion or who had abortions without informed consent.

One of the women was told in so many words by her doctor that it wasn't a baby, it was a little blob of tissue. The abortion was botched and when she went to a hospital a week later, the nurse told her that the problem was that "your doctor didn't get all the parts of the baby out."

Thanks to ProLifeGuy for the link.

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Differences of opinion

Rod Dreher has a fascinating article at National Review Online about friends and families splitting up because of opposite opinions about the war.

“I have lost, probably forever, at least four, and maybe more friends, including my college roommate from almost 45 years ago,” one wrote. Another reported: “I have lost a friend I have had for 30 years over the war argument. I can’t believe she can say the things she does — ‘no war for oil,’ etc. — without even thinking about making a logical argument for or against.”

Friends for over four decades. Friends for three decades. Gone, just like that. Many marriages don’t last that long.

It’s ripping up families too. “I actually hung up on my own mother yesterday after getting into a discussion about the war,” a young woman wrote. “I got angry after she asserted that our government was just as bad as Saddam’s. What do you say to a statement like that?” The woman said she and her mother agreed not to discuss the war again, for the sake of their relationship, but she fears that things may rupture between them if they’re not careful."

Dreher quotes pollster Frank Luntz saying that 1 out of 4 Americans are not just anti-war, but are "incandescently angry". My father falls into that group. He is full not just of rage but also of contempt. He doesn't think that Saddam's regime should be toppled through military means but more than that, he cannot countenance the possibility that anyone who is sane, decent, normal could come to an opinion about that that is different than his.

It's a strange feeling to be in a family and more broadly in a country where this is happening, especially since this is a country that deliberates about and enacts what it considers to be justifiable killings every day of the year.

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Friday, March 21, 2003

Lesson from the Geese

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Slow, slow blogging

The war is on my mind and slows down my fingers.

Fortunately, Ashli at The SICLE Cell has had the Holy Spirit as her personal muse.

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Thursday, March 20, 2003

Google search last night

"Responsibility to girl after abortion?"

I hope he wasn't sorry that he clicked through to this blog.

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Dorothy Day, candidate for sainthood

Don't call me a saint," she occasionally said. "I don't want to be dismissed so easily."

That's a frequently quoted comment of Dorothy Day.

This article has a quite fascinating discussion about the effect of her abortion.

"Perhaps another reason for Dorothy's resistance to admiration was that she believed people would think quite differently about her if they knew the whole truth of her pre-Catholic life and the fact that she had caused the death of her own unborn child.

Nothing horrified Dorothy more about her own past than the abortion. This memory was so painful to her that the event was only implied in the vaguest way in her later, Catholic autobiographical writing. There was even a period in her life when she made an effort to track down and destroy as many copies of The Eleventh Virgin as she could find.

She once told her friend Robert Coles about a time when she brought this book-burning effort of hers to the attention of a priest who was hearing her Confession.

The priest laughed. "He said, 'My, my.' I thought he was going to tell me to stop being so silly and mixed up in my priorities.

"I will remember to my last day here on God's earth what that priest said: 'You can't have much faith in God if you're taking the life he has given you and using it that way.' I didn't say a word in reply. He added, 'God is the one who forgives us, if we ask him; and it sounds like you don't even want forgiveness—just to get rid of the books.'"

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Consent bill in Arizona

Arizona House passes 24-hour waiting period and consent legislation.

Democratic governor Janet Napolitano narrowly edged out a very pro-life candidate in the Arizona gubernatorial race last November. Anti-Napolitano votes were split by the Republican candidate and a strong independent candidate.

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Secular press on Rachel's Vineyard

The Narragansett Times in Rhode Island featured this article on their front page yesterday.

"It took courage to go," Jill said. "I hadn't talked to anyone about the abortion. Everyone else had seemed judgmental. It was a lovely, healing experience and I highly encourage those who feel pain to do it as soon as possible. The pain doesn't go away, so the sooner, the better."

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Wednesday, March 19, 2003


The imminent start of the war is making it hard to think of anything else. It's a gray, dark day here. My kids are jittery. Even my dog is acting strange.

I never listen to daytime TV but I turned on Regis Philbin just to have a normal voice in the house. If you listen to the all-news channel, they sound frantic all the time, no matter what.

I figure when the real war starts, they will pre-empt Reg.

I support this war. Tony Blair's speech yesterday will go down in history. But I have more of a sense than I ever did before about the loss of life that is about to happen.

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The Red Ragtop

Ashli blogs on Tim McGraw's song "The Red Ragtop". Released in September 2002, it is a song about a long-ago abortion. Ashli argues that although the song portrays the abortion as something that is remembered with regret, it is only remembered with regret in the same sense that we regret other youthful follies.

I'm not sure I agree, although she makes a strong case.

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Tuesday, March 18, 2003

"In thy faint slumbers I by thee have watch'd
And heard thee murmur tales of iron wars..." Shakespeare, Henry IV, Part I

Philip Caputo was a Marine in Vietnam in '65 and '66.

The first paragraph of his book, "A Rumor of War", reads:

"This book does not pretend to be history. It has nothing to do with politics, power, strategy, influence, national interests, or foreign policy; nor is it an indictment of the great men who led us into Indochina and whose mistakes were paid for with the blood of some quite ordinary men. In a general sense, it is simply a story about war, about the things men do in war and the things war does to them. More strictly, it is a soldier's account of our longest conflict, the only one we have ever lost, as well as the record of a long and sometimes painful personal experience."

I like this book. As you might imagine, in addition to sending my heart with the greatest sympathy and prayers to the soldiers amassed on the border of Iraq, it reminds me of abortion.

When women walk into the clinic, they have walked into a war zone. Caputo, who later became an anti-war activist, does well in describing the moments and days of euphoria.

This is how I felt when I went to the clinic:

"So, when we marched into the rice paddies on that damp March afternoon, we carried, along with our packs and rifles, the implicit convictions that the Viet Cong would be quickly beaten and that we were doing something altogether noble and good. We kept the packs and rifles; the convictions, we lost."

I thought my baby was a parasite and an intruder. I thought I was striking a blow for the emancipation of women. I believed in abortion as part of a utopia in which conceptions and pregnancies could be erased as if they had never happened. A mulligan. A do over. An act with no consequences; an act to be celebrated.

"Beyond adding a few more corpses to the weekly body count, none of these encounters achieved anything; none will ever appear in military histories or be studied by cadets at West Point. Still, they changed us and taught us, the men who fought in them; in those obscure skirmishes we learned the old lessons about fear, cowardice, courage, suffering, cruelty, and comradeship. Most of all, we learned about death at an age when it is common to think of oneself as immortal. Everyone loses that illusion eventually, but in civilian life it is lost in installments over the years. We lost it all at once and, in the span of months, passed from boyhood through manhood to a premature middle age. The knowledge of death, of the implacable limits placed on a man's existence, severed us from our youth as irrevocably as a surgeon's scissors had once severed us from the womb. And yet, few of us were past twenty-five. We left Vietnam peculiar creatures, with young shoulders that bore rather old heads."


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More on the abortion-breast cancer link

Dr. Joel Brind, who participated in the NCI workshop that determined that there is no breast cancer-abortion link, has posted a Minority Report

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Monday, March 17, 2003

What about men?

Slow blogging this morning but later today I'll post about how important it is for men to step up to the plate.

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