This email was sent to us yesterday. I have a tremendous amount of respect for the man who wrote it.
Women are not the only ones whose lives are filled with abortion regret. Nearly 10 years ago, when I was 23, my girlfriend at the time got pregnant. She was a girl I had an on and off relationship with since I was 16. When she got pregnant, she wanted to have the baby, but never said it. I could tell that all she wanted me to do was be happy about it and for us to have the baby and we would make it somehow. Instead, I stood there and said nothing. When she called me the night before the abortion, I just knew she wanted me to say "Don't do it." What did I do? I accused her of sleeping around, that it wasn't mine, you name it. She had the abortion, and to this day, I hurt over it like I could never explain. 2 months ago, I had my first baby, a beautiful little girl Emily. Since she was born, the regret for what I did 10 years ago has boiled back to the surface like you will not believe. I cannot tell this to Emily's mother. In fact, I can't tell anyone else, that is why I am writing this. I have cried a lot in the last month. If nothing else, I hope the men who read this, if faced with a similar situation, will be the man that I should have been. And, I wanted you to know that it is not just women who suffer from regret. I have an understanding of the women I saw today in D.C., the ones with the signs that said "I regret my abortion," that I wish I never had.