From the Albuquerque Journal, an article about infertility: When Your Heart Says Yes but Your Body Says No.
"'Don't get pregnant'... that has become a very common message that we tell young women starting at about age 8," says Katie Singer, the Santa Fe author of "The Garden of Fertility," a guide to charting fertility signals to prevent or achieve pregnancy naturally.It sure is.
"And if someone gets pregnant before she's 21, or before she's got a career, fill in the blank, people often perceive pregnancy as a failure," says Singer. "That's in the culture now."
She cannot forget the despair that marked her five-year struggle. "I felt like a rock. ... Because my eggs were poor quality, I was poor quality, and that effect keeps rippling: Sex is just for making nonviable pregnancies. 'Blighted ovums,' they call them. A jillion names just to say, 'You've failed.' Every time you have that happen ... I felt like a failure. I wasn't a woman.Her use of the phrase "sucked dry" to describe how she is feeling is interesting. It could be seen as a metaphor for her earlier abortion, which continues to cause her to feel emotionally drained and fragile, even though she now has another baby.
"I felt like I had done damage to myself. I grew up in the '60s. Every joint I ever smoked, every drink I ever had, the abortion. I was wrong, I was bad, I was lousy. ... You feel sucked dry. Even getting your baby, you feel sucked dry."