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Monday, November 1, 2004

Shredding The Myths about Abortion’s “Benefits” to Women

The first 9 myths shredded were Q&A’s taken literally from Planned Parenthood’s webpage, “Choosing Abortion - Questions And Answers.” We posted extensive research and case history evidence showing that their answers are just plain wrong.


We continue here discussing the truths about abortion’s devastating effects on the moms, including specific medical research studies, personal stories and legal cases, including updates on the two legal motions to overturn Roe v. Wade and Doe v. Bolton.

For the final 6 myths, we’re covering those that are the general throwout phrases made by abortion rights supporters everywhere, not just Planned Parenthood.

Myth #14 (of 15):
14. “You’ll go right back to being the person you were before.”
Here are two stories among many (including my own) to disprove this one:
a) “For 5 years after my abortion, I felt deep guilt and depression, but on Mother's Day one year, after Mass, strange-looking photos were passed out…I saw that they showed what the abortion counselor had hidden: the truth of abortion. One photo of an 8-week-old killed by suction abortion hit too close for comfort. ‘The same age as my daughter! The same method!’

“Desolated as never before, I plunged into 11 years of worse turmoil and despair. I hated myself even more. I became addicted to alcohol, and attempted suicide twice. I confronted my parents, but they always insisted that the doctor's decision [because I had epilepsy] was 'in my best interests.' A therapist, appalled by my 'reckless' remarks on killing my mother, exclaimed, 'You think nothing of killing your own mother, yet you carry on about killing an embryo?' My eyes flashed red-hot rage. 'What you're talking about is not an embryo!' I screamed in an almost rabid lather of fury, 'She’s a person, my unborn child, my daughter, and I let some creep kill her by abortion!'

“After 16 years of hell with still no end in sight, I was again ready to give up on life. I plotted the final demise of my parents, and then myself.

“However, soon after, God worked a miracle that saved our lives. A TV show featured a former abortionist turned Christian pro-life crusader, Carol Everett. As I watched her remarkable story, an incredible new hope began to spark within me.”

b) “It was the morning of my 20th birthday and I was at an abortion clinic…with my mother. I didn’t want this abortion, but my mother said that having this baby not only affected MY life but the whole family. While friends celebrated their 20th birthday with a party, I listened to the whirring sound of a machine as it sucked my baby out of my womb.

“After that, my life didn’t go on as if nothing had happened; that was the ‘lie’ that they would have everyone believe. My life became a whirlwind of ‘do anything to forget’, don’t slow down or you might remember, and whatever you do, ‘don’t tell and don’t talk about it."
This woman later married, divorced, then married again, agreeing to his vasectomy so they wouldn’t have any kids. She wrote, “I didn’t deserve to have any children.”

But she became pregnant before his operation. She writes,
“His words will live forever in my mind: 'You can have it, but you’ll do it alone, without my help or me. Or you can have an abortion and we’ll raise my children that are already here; it’s your ‘choice’.

“So I had my second abortion. My baby’s father sat in his car and waited, while I went in ... alone. That night, I had a terrible dream in which I heard a child crying. I awoke with a start and could still hear the crying. I woke him up and asked if he could hear it. He told me to ‘quit being so melodramatic.’ That was the last time I ever spoke about it to him. That was also when I began smoking pot, daily, all day, for 7 years.”
She eventually stopped drugs and got a job, but fell in love with her boss, even though he was married. After 13 years of marriage, she left her husband. She knew the affair was wrong, but as she said,
“I didn’t care. Why should I? I didn’t deserve to be happy, alive or living a ‘normal’ life. I’d taken the life of two children ... my own.”
She met a new man and married a third time, planning to have a baby, but before that happened, as she tells the story,
“I awoke one night, covered in blood…so was our bed and my husband. After tests, the doctor said I had such a mass of scar tissue that he couldn’t distinguish anything in my lower abdomen. When I asked if my abortion had caused this (I couldn’t admit that I had two of them), he said ‘Yes.’”
One abortion had perforated her uterus; she’d bled internally off and on ever since. She needed a total hysterectomy, immediately.

She says,
“It hit me then that those two beautiful babies I had aborted were my only chances at ‘motherhood’ and I had thrown them away. I was devastated and totally demoralized.”
This woman, a total stranger, sent me her story unsolicited, and permission to use it. She told me, in her own words, she’s repented, has found forgiveness and has joined “Silent No More." She says,
“With love and compassion, we will tell our stories to underscore the ‘lie’ that is told every day. The truth is, if you make a ‘choice’ to abort your child, it will change you in ways that you can’t even imagine. It’s been 30 years since my first abortion and 27 since my second. There hasn’t been a day that I haven’t thought about either of them. It is in their memory and for them that I share this with you.
Up until that point in this talk I gave on Oct. 9, I'd been zipping through it quite quickly, to fit it all in in one hour. But reading this woman's final words, her last two sentences, out loud for the first time, I stumbled. I could barely get her final words out in a whisper.

I feel exactly the same way about my lost daughter. It's why I'm here, doing what I do, sharing this all with you...

Myth #15 to be shredded tomorrow. I’m posting one a day every day from Oct. 19 through Election Day. Prior myths shredded can be found as follows:
#1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6, #7, #8, #9, #10, #11, #12, #13.

(If anyone wishes to receive an emailed MSWORD document of the talk in its entirety, please just email me (see above right corner of blog).

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