This article, in today's University Daily Kansan has got to be the most balanced article I've ever seen on the aftermath of abortion. It includes comments from two women who do not regret their abortions, as well as these stories from women who do, and lots of other balanced reporting as well:
Anna* understands feeling that abortion is the only answer. When the Kansas City woman found she was pregnant during her senior year at KU, she didn’t consider other options. She didn’t want to think — all she wanted was to not be pregnant. Her fiancé agreed abortion was the right choice.The next story comes after a few paragraphs reporting on what is known about embryological development:
Immediately after the procedure Anna felt relief, but the feeling didn’t last. Within a few months she began to wish she hadn’t had the abortion. Regret hit especially hard years later, after she was married and had suffered several miscarriages. As she mourned the loss of these children she’d wanted, she also grieved for the life she’d chosen to end.
Now, 15 years after her abortion, Anna has two little boys and has been through a post-abortion healing process. She says she knows God has forgiven her, but this doesn’t mean the past never hurts.
“The one thing I’ll always remember is the moment she was taken from me,” she says of her aborted child. “And that was my doing — mine and my husband’s. I would do anything to protect my boys. It’s very hard to think I didn’t do that for her.”
An international committee of experts in human embryology — the Nomina Embryologica Committee — accepts these facts as proof that a human being begins at conception. The field of human embryology is required to follow the facts sanctioned by this committee, which means that every human embryology textbook teaches that the product of conception is biologically human."From now on, you're going to have to play a different game in your head." That just about sums it up, doesn't it?
Jill*, a Kansas City woman, knew all of this. She was a biology major. She’d taken a class in embryology. But when she was 20 and pregnant, none of this knowledge mattered. She closed her mind to everything except the fact that she had a crisis and had to fix it. Immediately following the abortion, she was able to convince herself she had.
“I think everyone is initially relieved, because the procedure is over, and you think the problem is over,” she says. “But it doesn’t take very long to recognize from now on, you’re going to have to play a different game in your head. Now you have to pretend it was the right thing, though you know it wasn’t.”
Jill pretended her abortion was right for 20 years, she says, and suffered the entire time. She says her husband, who is the father of the aborted child, suffered as much as she did. The abortion was a breach of everything they’d created together, she says, and the stress their decision placed on their relationship was immense.